Tell her one time that you think having a dinner "date" with another guy is disrespectful towards you. That's it, don't go any further. Don't repeat yourself. Don't argue. If she goes ahead and has the date anyways, you know where you stand.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
GF is going out for dinner with male tutor
- Thread starter walker_hunter2010
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If she cheated on you in the past and she's asking you to go on a date with another guy cmon man look at it from a third point of view. I been in ur shoes. Didn't end well
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You do know if I tell her this, next time she wont tell me ****.
you believing that confirms she's playing you. Either snap out of it or suffer the consequences down the line.
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It was just to pat your ego
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If she goes against your word, there shouldn't be a next time
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I wouldn't know there wouldn't be a next time. She can go against my back, and not tell me.
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That means I should not let her have any male friends ..
... ummm no, there wouldn't be a next time because you would have dropped her. Right?
The fact you think she'd do any of this stuff behind your back is already a red flag you should walk away. If you think she'd go to this first "date" behind your back, find out when it is and try to schedule something with her at the same time. Or just say f*ck it and walk now.
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Because she dosent respect you. If a girl is into you she wouldn't be going to dinner with a male tutor. It is not respectful. She knows it and is playing you so she can get validation and who knows what else. Grow a spine and dump her she is not looking out for your feelings.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Congratulations OP but you got the Beta of the Year award!
it doesnt really matter what you do because you're into her, and she's not into you. And this is why you're posting here, while she's riding that guys cöck.
Advise? get rid of her so you get some dignity back.
it doesnt really matter what you do because you're into her, and she's not into you. And this is why you're posting here, while she's riding that guys cöck.
Advise? get rid of her so you get some dignity back.
RangerMIke
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Women always know when men are interested in them. ALWAYS. She knows this dude wants her, and is telling you so that she won't feel guilty is something "just happens".
With women it's always "it just happened", She "just happened" to be out on a date with a guy, she knows like her, and she 'just happened', to let his hand slide down her leg, and his hand "just happened" to find it's way past her bra.... and her face "just happened" to land on his c0ck, and he 'just happened' to start fvcking her. It was all just a complete accident, she didn't mean it to be this way, it "just happened".
Sh!t doesn't just happen. She is thinking of branch jumping. Nothing you can do about it, just start dating other girls. But if you feel like you have to do something then just do this... Tell her she can go out on dates with other guys, that's fine, tell her if she wants an open relationship, that's fine, you'll just start wearing condoms. But if she's going out on dates, then she isn't your girlfriend anymore, she'll just be one a a few that you are casually dating... or if she just wants to be a fvck buddy, that's okay too.
There is NOTHING you can do if your girl wants to start fvcking other dudes... NOTHING you can't stop it, and no amount of weak @ss needy begging behavior will change her mind. You just have to be willing to let her go, if she loves you she won't go out. If she does, well.... go get other women.
With women it's always "it just happened", She "just happened" to be out on a date with a guy, she knows like her, and she 'just happened', to let his hand slide down her leg, and his hand "just happened" to find it's way past her bra.... and her face "just happened" to land on his c0ck, and he 'just happened' to start fvcking her. It was all just a complete accident, she didn't mean it to be this way, it "just happened".
Sh!t doesn't just happen. She is thinking of branch jumping. Nothing you can do about it, just start dating other girls. But if you feel like you have to do something then just do this... Tell her she can go out on dates with other guys, that's fine, tell her if she wants an open relationship, that's fine, you'll just start wearing condoms. But if she's going out on dates, then she isn't your girlfriend anymore, she'll just be one a a few that you are casually dating... or if she just wants to be a fvck buddy, that's okay too.
There is NOTHING you can do if your girl wants to start fvcking other dudes... NOTHING you can't stop it, and no amount of weak @ss needy begging behavior will change her mind. You just have to be willing to let her go, if she loves you she won't go out. If she does, well.... go get other women.
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My professional advice as a teacher of adults? We are more interesting then you boring working joes and if I take a girl out for dinner that has a boyfriend, she's guaranteed more interested in me than you.
Kerplah! You are a klingon.
Kerplah! You are a klingon.
dustmuffin
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There should not be a next time. She can't be trusted. If a woman cheats on me she is gone. You are tied up emotionally to a woman that doesn't respect you and cheated on you. She is trash...**** you stepped in...you are just opening yourself up to more pain. If you want that then go ahead.
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She made her "covert" intent, "overt." Her mistake. Now build your harem and demote her to a plate. Don't overtly disclose her relegation.
Meantime: Give her a condom. Tell her to "have fun."
Meantime: Give her a condom. Tell her to "have fun."
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Walk and never look back.
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Nope , you are a troll. Nobody's that stupid.
“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”
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Mate, sorry this is a date.
My ex ex from about 13 years ago (I was with her 6 years) pulled this stunt. It went like this:
Her = Hey Jake, My old schoolfriend has returned to town, he's asked me if I want to meet him for lunch, it's all above board he has a girlfriend. Do you mind?
Me = Hey good, yeah no worries as long as your sure he's not got any other ideas go for it, you'll enjoy it I bet. (At this point I trusted her 100pc and had never over all the years give me ANY reason for suspicion)
Month later, Where she would reply quick, it was now taking her much more time.
2 months later, Attitude issues, causing arguments, not being herself. Phone rang with odd number she looked shocked/didnt know what to say.
3 months later, she caused big argument completely ghosted on me for 48 hours, phone switched off.
A little while later it emerges she had been seeing this guy right behind my back and having sleazy sex sessions in his ****ty used car in a layby.
The key is: If the guy is a tutor then he can either tutor her professionally like all his other students or perhaps come round to yours to do the tutoring while your there.
A dinner??? Nah mate, the tutor is up to no good and she's playing dumb to make you think its all innocent.
If it was me i'd tell her i've got an ex coming round to visit while shes at this 'lunch' and then give her the sack when she gets back.
PS, just to stick the knife in I'd report the tutor...im sure there are strict rules on tutor-pupil behaviour in most establishments.
Taking a pupil out to dinner has nothing to do with giving actual educational lessons.
I doubt this guy even knows you exist.
My ex ex from about 13 years ago (I was with her 6 years) pulled this stunt. It went like this:
Her = Hey Jake, My old schoolfriend has returned to town, he's asked me if I want to meet him for lunch, it's all above board he has a girlfriend. Do you mind?
Me = Hey good, yeah no worries as long as your sure he's not got any other ideas go for it, you'll enjoy it I bet. (At this point I trusted her 100pc and had never over all the years give me ANY reason for suspicion)
Month later, Where she would reply quick, it was now taking her much more time.
2 months later, Attitude issues, causing arguments, not being herself. Phone rang with odd number she looked shocked/didnt know what to say.
3 months later, she caused big argument completely ghosted on me for 48 hours, phone switched off.
A little while later it emerges she had been seeing this guy right behind my back and having sleazy sex sessions in his ****ty used car in a layby.
The key is: If the guy is a tutor then he can either tutor her professionally like all his other students or perhaps come round to yours to do the tutoring while your there.
A dinner??? Nah mate, the tutor is up to no good and she's playing dumb to make you think its all innocent.
If it was me i'd tell her i've got an ex coming round to visit while shes at this 'lunch' and then give her the sack when she gets back.
PS, just to stick the knife in I'd report the tutor...im sure there are strict rules on tutor-pupil behaviour in most establishments.
Taking a pupil out to dinner has nothing to do with giving actual educational lessons.
I doubt this guy even knows you exist.
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It very well might be educational! He might teach her a lot more than he has been while tutoring her...hahaha
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.