Well u seem articulate enough on this thread. So I guess the question is how u feel about her. And what she talks about. If it's about mutual friends and acquaintances you probably are meant to know this stuff. It's basically her trying to solidify the relationship by building shared experiences. If it's twaddle about reality TV or whatever don't get pulled into it.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Gf gets mad when I´m being quiet
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"I am not capable of talking as much as you. This is who i am. If that doesn't suit you, there is door."
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I think I would start kissing her. That will shut her up. then escalate
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I personally think that your silence makes her uneasy and insecure. Possibly it makes her feel as if you are mad at her, or makes her feel as if you are detached from her. She may believe that, if you were talking to her you would be opening up/bonding with her.
Couples dont converse every minute that they are awake. Lol, eventually, after the honeymoon period is over (3 to 6 months) you've explored everything new and it's time to relax and chill.
If I were in your shoes I would be asking myself - is this something that we are incompatible on? If you are not a talker, and she needs that, this might end up being a bone of contention. You just need to let her know that nothing is wrong, you just dont vomit words from the mouth 24/7 and, if she really wants you to be comfortable in the relationship, she needs to understand that and back off. Then, if you are so willing, try to engage her a bit more than you have been.
Couples dont converse every minute that they are awake. Lol, eventually, after the honeymoon period is over (3 to 6 months) you've explored everything new and it's time to relax and chill.
If I were in your shoes I would be asking myself - is this something that we are incompatible on? If you are not a talker, and she needs that, this might end up being a bone of contention. You just need to let her know that nothing is wrong, you just dont vomit words from the mouth 24/7 and, if she really wants you to be comfortable in the relationship, she needs to understand that and back off. Then, if you are so willing, try to engage her a bit more than you have been.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Doctor Europeo
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I'm a teacher, so I alwYs take the job home always have something on my (job) to-do list. She is a "godinez", 9 to 5 (except in her case is 9 to 7) job, but her job stays at the office. She seems to have a lot of free time when she's not on the job
Doctor Europeo
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Last night we were on the road when We stop for a red light. She said "I want my hair to grow already" (she cut it a bit recently). I just smiled and then was all like "why aren't you saying anything?" Wtf? She talking about ****ing hair! And its not like I can do something about it if she wants to magically grow it overnight.
Doctor Europeo
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Doesn't work when she's "angry" because of my silence
Doctor Europeo
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I'm beginning tothink that yes, its going to have to come to this
Doctor Europeo
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Yeah, lastnight she got mad about one of my so called silences during a red light while we were driving, but she was talking about ****ing hair!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mad about her hair? And then mad when you didn't comment about her hair?
Dude is she just making up excused just to get mad at you? Seems like an unreasonable immature child if you ask me
SuckItUp
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Two things at play here. As mentioned women pander for attention. The other is using their attention against them so that they feel good about you and you can get to stop prattling on about nonsense.
For example, when she's complaining about her not growing, you can tell her to go buy some chia seeds and to make sure she waters her hair every day. Or you can say you should grow it out like
Snuffaluffagus and then we can either get a flowbee or a bowl and cut your hair.
You are using humor to disarm her inanity while tacitly telling her to stop talking about dumb ****.
However, it may just be a matter of compatability, and she's not a good fit.
For example, when she's complaining about her not growing, you can tell her to go buy some chia seeds and to make sure she waters her hair every day. Or you can say you should grow it out like
Snuffaluffagus and then we can either get a flowbee or a bowl and cut your hair.
You are using humor to disarm her inanity while tacitly telling her to stop talking about dumb ****.
However, it may just be a matter of compatability, and she's not a good fit.
