Well u seem articulate enough on this thread. So I guess the question is how u feel about her. And what she talks about. If it's about mutual friends and acquaintances you probably are meant to know this stuff. It's basically her trying to solidify the relationship by building shared experiences. If it's twaddle about reality TV or whatever don't get pulled into it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gf gets mad when I´m being quiet
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"I am not capable of talking as much as you. This is who i am. If that doesn't suit you, there is door."
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I think I would start kissing her. That will shut her up. then escalate
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I personally think that your silence makes her uneasy and insecure. Possibly it makes her feel as if you are mad at her, or makes her feel as if you are detached from her. She may believe that, if you were talking to her you would be opening up/bonding with her.
Couples dont converse every minute that they are awake. Lol, eventually, after the honeymoon period is over (3 to 6 months) you've explored everything new and it's time to relax and chill.
If I were in your shoes I would be asking myself - is this something that we are incompatible on? If you are not a talker, and she needs that, this might end up being a bone of contention. You just need to let her know that nothing is wrong, you just dont vomit words from the mouth 24/7 and, if she really wants you to be comfortable in the relationship, she needs to understand that and back off. Then, if you are so willing, try to engage her a bit more than you have been.
Couples dont converse every minute that they are awake. Lol, eventually, after the honeymoon period is over (3 to 6 months) you've explored everything new and it's time to relax and chill.
If I were in your shoes I would be asking myself - is this something that we are incompatible on? If you are not a talker, and she needs that, this might end up being a bone of contention. You just need to let her know that nothing is wrong, you just dont vomit words from the mouth 24/7 and, if she really wants you to be comfortable in the relationship, she needs to understand that and back off. Then, if you are so willing, try to engage her a bit more than you have been.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Doctor Europeo
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I'm a teacher, so I alwYs take the job home always have something on my (job) to-do list. She is a "godinez", 9 to 5 (except in her case is 9 to 7) job, but her job stays at the office. She seems to have a lot of free time when she's not on the job
Doctor Europeo
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Last night we were on the road when We stop for a red light. She said "I want my hair to grow already" (she cut it a bit recently). I just smiled and then was all like "why aren't you saying anything?" Wtf? She talking about ****ing hair! And its not like I can do something about it if she wants to magically grow it overnight.
Doctor Europeo
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Doesn't work when she's "angry" because of my silence
Doctor Europeo
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I'm beginning tothink that yes, its going to have to come to this
Doctor Europeo
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Yeah, lastnight she got mad about one of my so called silences during a red light while we were driving, but she was talking about ****ing hair!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mad about her hair? And then mad when you didn't comment about her hair?
Dude is she just making up excused just to get mad at you? Seems like an unreasonable immature child if you ask me
SuckItUp
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Two things at play here. As mentioned women pander for attention. The other is using their attention against them so that they feel good about you and you can get to stop prattling on about nonsense.
For example, when she's complaining about her not growing, you can tell her to go buy some chia seeds and to make sure she waters her hair every day. Or you can say you should grow it out like
Snuffaluffagus and then we can either get a flowbee or a bowl and cut your hair.
You are using humor to disarm her inanity while tacitly telling her to stop talking about dumb ****.
However, it may just be a matter of compatability, and she's not a good fit.
For example, when she's complaining about her not growing, you can tell her to go buy some chia seeds and to make sure she waters her hair every day. Or you can say you should grow it out like
Snuffaluffagus and then we can either get a flowbee or a bowl and cut your hair.
You are using humor to disarm her inanity while tacitly telling her to stop talking about dumb ****.
However, it may just be a matter of compatability, and she's not a good fit.
