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Something like this happened to me years ago. I was in a LTR, became indifferent, gf started seeing a "friend." Right. That's the OLDEST play in the book, btw.

I dumped her and gave her 2 weeks to move out. I was very calm, cool, and unemotional.

I honestly didn't care that much because we were so disjointed anyway, living like roommates, not bf/gf.

A mutual friend helped her move out, I didn't lift a finger. All went well.

I remember sitting and having dinner about 3 days later. It felt like a 600# lowland gorilla was off my back. Blood pressure was maybe 70/20, lol. Felt so good to have all the stupid relationship tension and bs gone for good.

I went NC. To this day, I don't talk to her. Ever.

Good luck.
 

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Something like this happened to me years ago. I was in a LTR, became indifferent, gf started seeing a "friend." Right. That's the OLDEST play in the book, btw.

I dumped her and gave her 2 weeks to move out. I was very calm, cool, and unemotional.

I honestly didn't care that much because we were so disjointed anyway, living like roommates, not bf/gf.

A mutual friend helped her move out, I didn't lift a finger. All went well.

I remember sitting and having dinner about 3 days later. It felt like a 600# lowland gorilla was off my back. Blood pressure was maybe 70/20, lol. Felt so good to have all the stupid relationship tension and bs gone for good.

I went NC. To this day, I don't talk to her. Ever.

Good luck.
Can you identify it, and would you do it again?
 

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But she was giving me grief when I was hanging out / texting other chicks. Even checking my IG and asking me to block them. She said that she’s a one man guy and expects guy to do the same. Having done that, she has flipped the script and started to hang out with iother guys whilst telling me I could do the same. This wasn’t the case a few months ago.
Oh man, I've been there, bruthah. Actually she didn't ask me to block anyone...I started doing it myself because I couldn't deal with the drama. I was constantly suing for peace until she flipped the script like you said. How stupid is that? But there was all kinds of gaslighting and manipulation involved - I was like a frog in a boiling pot.

Honestly, with other girls now I don't care who hangs out with whom. I'm going to do what I want and so can she, and if it goes against what I want, I'll just walk; so can she. Simple as that. I know a lot of guys prefer to have ironclad rules, but I'd rather be free.
 

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Oh man, I've been there, bruthah. Actually she didn't ask me to block anyone...I started doing it myself because I couldn't deal with the drama. I was constantly suing for peace until she flipped the script like you said. How stupid is that? But there was all kinds of gaslighting and manipulation involved - I was like a frog in a boiling pot.

Honestly, with other girls now I don't care who hangs out with whom. I'm going to do what I want and so can she, and if it goes against what I want, I'll just walk; so can she. Simple as that. I know a lot of guys prefer to have ironclad rules, but I'd rather be free.
We dont need ironclad rules if they really want to be with us and we are their sexual priority. There's nothing to force.
 

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Gf living with me. Been going out for over a year
On Friday was supposed to have dinner
She cancelled last minute saying she wasn’t hungry.
Then I asked what time are we meeting . Then she said she’s meeting friends and told me to meet the next day .
Later I found out she’s meeting with some dude. Called her out and she said it’s only a friend. .
She said she needed space and freedom.
I said if that’s the case then she needs to leave and stay somewhere else.
She says she still wants to be my gf but wants space to meet with other people.

I think this is bs and she wants to branch swing.

she now wants to move out but wants me to pay because I’m still her bf.

thoughts ?


Op, you should get your testosterone checked out asap.

Said girls **** would be in the street and the locks changed.

Revenge porn ftw. Wait wut?
 

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@mikey2012 Be careful dude. My last gf ever back in 2016 stole sht from me. Fishing rode, half my kitchen knifes from collection, iphone 5c and other sht. This is why I say pack her sht and throw it out and change the locks.

And then become a fcker only. Only fck and dump. No gorlfriends, at least not for you, they can think whatever.
 

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Something like this happened to me years ago. I was in a LTR, became indifferent, gf started seeing a "friend." Right. That's the OLDEST play in the book, btw.

I dumped her and gave her 2 weeks to move out. I was very calm, cool, and unemotional.

I honestly didn't care that much because we were so disjointed anyway, living like roommates, not bf/gf.

A mutual friend helped her move out, I didn't lift a finger. All went well.

I remember sitting and having dinner about 3 days later. It felt like a 600# lowland gorilla was off my back. Blood pressure was maybe 70/20, lol. Felt so good to have all the stupid relationship tension and bs gone for good.

I went NC. To this day, I don't talk to her. Ever.

Good luck.
This OP is the best possible way to do it. No what no ifs, delete her from your life, mind and find a better girl to hump.
 

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Gf living with me. Been going out for over a year
On Friday was supposed to have dinner
She cancelled last minute saying she wasn’t hungry.
Then I asked what time are we meeting . Then she said she’s meeting friends and told me to meet the next day .
Later I found out she’s meeting with some dude. Called her out and she said it’s only a friend. .
She said she needed space and freedom.
I said if that’s the case then she needs to leave and stay somewhere else.
She says she still wants to be my gf but wants space to meet with other people.

I think this is bs and she wants to branch swing.

she now wants to move out but wants me to pay because I’m still her bf.

thoughts ?
no. She wants you to be a willing cuckold. This closes up her optimized dual sexual strategy. This is her biology in full “on” mode. Welcome to the world.
 

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Your G/F was stealing sh!t from you? What kind of people are you dating, man? That ain't normal.
Breakups involve alot of emotions, it's not a pleasurable experience for anyone involved. Usually someone is hurt more than the other and feelings of revenge may manifest themselves in some people. Stealing is part of hurting the other one as much as possible when the ship is already going down, comparable to when the wife tries to clean house in the divorce court with zero concerns if you end up in the streets a broken man. Some part of them enjoy seeing you suffer to some degree. Women can be completely ruthless and your worst enemy when the relationship is over.

It always speaks of bad character though.
 

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Breakups involve alot of emotions, it's not a pleasurable experience for anyone involved. Usually someone is hurt more than the other and feelings of revenge may manifest themselves in some people.
Best way to minimize the hurt is to monkey branch, to a point that you are cheating on your gilfriend by being with her. Then it's easy.
 

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There is a happy medium between giving space and basically saying you could care less
Yea but she’s bitching I don’t know the middle ground . When I was busy working recently she saying I don’t spend time with her but when I do she says she needs space
 

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Always hate to see posts like this - I feel for ya man.

Have you tried to get her to open up more about why she lied to you and who the **** this guy even is or WHY she feels so compelled to go see him? What did they do when they were together?

When telling you she “still wants to be with you” did she sound sincere and offer to cut ties entirely with that dude? Did you flip the script and ask her why she would freak out if you went out with a girl who was “just a friend”?

Breakups over this kind of thing are always tough because there are unknowns and you are dumping her based off an assumption: that she’s monkey branching. The evidence of her going out and seeing another dude supports this, but are there other things she’s done that would also support this?
She was saying she wasn’t only with him but with a group of friends . I know sometimes they disguise it by hanging out with a group in case she’s spotted. There’s no smoke without fire. I always invite her when I’m in a group . Anyway I think beta backsliding got me to this point. I’m not in control and I’m in a weak position . The only thing that needs to be done is to eject .
 

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Excellent advise.
OP- you've been on this forum for 8 years. You know what to do. Be calm and tell her its over. No need for a discussion because what's done is done.

Get her out of your life asap.

Think of her as lint in your pocket. Throw her away because she is doing you no benefit, taking up space and getting in the way. We dont get mad at lint because we sort of expect it to be there. We just eliminate it and move on. Treat her the same way.

If she cries that she has no where to go......tell her that's not your problem.
If she cries and tells you she made a big mistake...agree with her and reassure her that it's over between you.
Make the conversation one sided, get it over quickly and do not argue. Expect her pleas to quickly become angry. That's ok. Just smile at her and tell her to collect her belongings and leave.

See she didn't plan on this part where you catch her before she had an exit strategy. So get her out asap and let her figure it all out on the fly.

Dont forget to block her on social media (like now).

Be firm, be direct and be unemotional. Send this cheating bytch out with her head spinning.
Maybe she hasn’t cheated physically but I think she’s checked out . People who want to be with you don’t do stuff like that .
 

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Maybe she hasn’t cheated physically but I think she’s checked out . People who want to be with you don’t do stuff like that .
Just think about yourself for a moment. Do you think you deserve this kind of behaviour from a woman you lived with? Ofcourse not, you deserve a woman who will respect you and your time. As everyone already said, end things with her for good, she sounds like a trainwreck and you dont need that in your life.
 

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Gf living with me. Been going out for over a year
On Friday was supposed to have dinner
She cancelled last minute saying she wasn’t hungry.
Then I asked what time are we meeting . Then she said she’s meeting friends and told me to meet the next day .
Later I found out she’s meeting with some dude. Called her out and she said it’s only a friend. .
She said she needed space and freedom.
I said if that’s the case then she needs to leave and stay somewhere else.
She says she still wants to be my gf but wants space to meet with other people.

I think this is bs and she wants to branch swing.

she now wants to move out but wants me to pay because I’m still her bf.

thoughts ?
NEXT bro. Have some dignity.

Here we go again with the "friend myth"
These threads are fairly regular.
Girls living with you and she says when you will meet up? LOLZ
BOOT dude BOOT....
 

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Just think about yourself for a moment. Do you think you deserve this kind of behaviour from a woman you lived with? Ofcourse not, you deserve a woman who will respect you and your time. As everyone already said, end things with her for good, she sounds like a trainwreck and you dont need that in your life.

For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.


She's taken on a "wh0re" decision path, and each of these subsequent moves will strengthen her Jezebel spirit. A man will be bled dry, drained of energy and his life will do a downward "death spiral" as long as she is in it. Top level Alpha's and Sigma's have been destroyed by these women when they refuse to stick to their rulesets.

Stop complaining or talking about her, it's part of the "Beta"ization.... "Alpha" move right now, will be asserting your independance. Sticking to your decision that benefits your life ( get her out asap ). Making moves that benefit you going forward.
 

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Yea . I screwed up big time. Went full blown beta. Broke all the rules. Let me guard down . This what happens !
 

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For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.


She's taken on a "wh0re" decision path, and each of these subsequent moves will strengthen her Jezebel spirit. A man will be bled dry, drained of energy and his life will do a downward "death spiral" as long as she is in it. Top level Alpha's and Sigma's have been destroyed by these women when they refuse to stick to their rulesets.

Stop complaining or talking about her, it's part of the "Beta"ization.... "Alpha" move right now, will be asserting your independance. Sticking to your decision that benefits your life ( get her out asap ). Making moves that benefit you going forward.
Yes, this woman and her existance in OPs life can only cause negative energy and stop him from progressing and moving on with life.
 
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