GF admitted some of her past to me. Not good.

[Boxer00]

Girls you date are going to have sex and do kinky stuff way before you come along into the picture. Either accept it for what it is or look for a needle in the haystack virgin that will give it up without wanting marriage first.

 

[Boxer00]

Look.....


Nobody here should be saying "accept that your gf was a slut".

Men you SHOULD be saying "accept that sluts are unacceptable creatures to turn into gfs".

LOL @ slut. Are girls not supposed to have sex before you come along?

 

[soden]

Guys, why do you keep telling him that his attitude is the problem?

If his standard is to get a girlfriend who has not done a threesome or goes totally crazy after she's drunk some alcohol then why tell him otherwise?

I know there are a lot of girls out there who went crazy in their 16-24 BUT, if he doesn't want one of those girls, doesn't this forum exist to help and encourage guys like him to go after what they really want and not settle for anything less, does it?


I never ask exactly for a girls past, but as I already mentioned, sooner or later you and your guts will notice, when theres something wrong and when its time to leave.

I would never stay with a women who had a threesome in her past, rather would I stay single till the day I die then to lower my standard.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

The ugly co-worker stuff happened in her mid-20's along with her morning after pill stuff.

The threesome happened her freshmen year of college, along with the blackout drunk/possible rape.

Her hooking up with some random dude at the bar happened near the beginning of our relationship, age at 28.

I wouldn't exactly refer to her as skidrow's finest, but that jerking off two d1cks at once story particularly is the one that stands out the most for sure. Pretty damn skanky in my view. She doesn't sound like relationship material.

Aside from the fact that you're going to wonder what else she has buried in her past, one of the main problems now that you've opened up Pandora's Box that I personally would be worried about looking ahead is: "can this girl actually be trusted when I'm not around?" Good luck getting some sleep the night she says she's having a girl's night out. And if you two tiff? I wouldn't put it past her to be the revenge hook up type either.

The two big takeaways that you ought to focus on here are:

-don't ask a girl about her sexual past
-take a deep interest in learning how to read and screen women before elevating them to a level of exclusivity

 

[backbeat]

yea man only reason u is sick is cuz u know bout the sh@t she did fu@kin round before u 2 got hooked up. if she never told u that sh@t u wouldnt be the wiser. case in point dont ask, don't tell bout her past then it wont get to u. if u cant take it use her as a plate an get a new chick.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Whenever I've done some disgusting shyt with a woman I've always laughed afterwards thinking about how her future husband would react if he ever found out. Now you're living it and it must be hell.
99% of women would have a skeleton in the closet re their sexual past.
Even the most seemingly delicate little flower.
As a rule, I never ask about a chick's history and I always assume I'm going to see her in some porn somewhere.
Low expectations, means no disappointments.
I think your goose is cooked on this one.
You've opened a door that can't be closed.

 

[Peña]

What is wrong with sluts?

 

[Mr_Stinky]

I can’t get over this stuff. I’m thinking of leaving because of these flags. I like our relationship otherwise but I know this was the past but its getting to me.

My condolences dude. I honestly feel bad for you. My advice is to just end it. You will never be able to erase the mental imagery caused by her confessions. I've been with my girlfriend for about 18 months and if I found out she has done this kind of stuff -- I would next her. I have no tolerance for bad behavior / stupid decisions -- even if it was in the past.

There is a reason why you can't just walk in off the street to get a mortgage. The bank will weigh your past decisions and choices against the future risk. Essentially your girlfriend has "bad credit" and it unworthy of a "mortgage" (ie: relationship)

 

[Peña]

Essentially your girlfriend has "bad credit" and it unworthy of a "mortgage" (ie: relationship)

How is she unworthy when she was perfectly worthy before she admitted?

I have no tolerance for bad behavior / stupid decisions -- even if it was in the past.

Let the world condemn you for your bad behavior/stupid decisions in the past?

 

[Mr_Stinky]

How is she unworthy when she was perfectly worthy before she admitted?

See: Mortgage Fraud

She admitted her past actions to him so he has definitive proof she is unworthy of a relationship. Ignorance was bliss before. But now what is seen cannot be unseen

Let the world condemn you for your bad behavior/stupid decisions in the past?

Nobody is perfect and everybody has a past but now that OP knows this girls past -- he should PASS on her for relationship material

See the red responses

 

[Peña]

She admitted her past actions to him so he has definitive proof she is unworthy of a relationship. Ignorance was bliss before. But now what is seen cannot be unseen

Let the world convict you of fraud if you admit your past actions? No?

Nobody is perfect and everybody has a past but now that OP knows this girls past -- he should PASS on her for relationship material

If we knew the true past of every girl not many would be relationship material. No?

 

[Mr_Stinky]

If we knew the true past of every girl not many would be relationship material. No?

It's the truth but like I said "Ignorance is bliss."

OP now has confirmation this girl is not worthy of a relationship so he should do the right thing and end it otherwise he will be haunted be her ghosts of d!cking's past

Your question "Let the world convict you of fraud if you admit your past actions? No?" is retarded. Makes no sense

 

[Peña]

It's the truth but like I said "Ignorance is bliss."

OP now has confirmation this girl is not worthy of a relationship so he should do the right thing and end it otherwise he will be haunted be her ghosts of d!cking's past

She is worthy to you if she not admit her unworthiness when in reality she is still unworthy? Yes?

Your question "Let the world convict you of fraud if you admit your past actions? No?" is retarded. Makes no sense

It is ok for you to do stupid past behavior/bad decsions and nobody should hold it against you? No?

 

[Ray S]

Go no contact. This isn't going to end well for you.

 

[EvilSpirit22]

OP, I know its tough for you to deal with this situation, your brain knows that you can't accept a girl who has slept with so many guys but your feelings and "LOVE" for her is actually putting you in dilemma.

You feel great with her and if she never told you about her past then you would have still be in love with her, maybe you still are but that's not the point here.

The point is what should you do. You can do one of the following.

1. If you love or like her then try ignoring her past and act as if nothing happened because you can't change her past.

2. Start detaching yourself from her by going NO CONTACT but tell her that its better if we stop seeing/talking to each other.

3. Stay with her while simultaneously improving yourself/detaching yourself/having sex with her. Because if she is anything like you mentioned above then she won't stay in a relationship for more than 2 months. Enjoy the physical pleasures for the time being.

4. Dump her, Start improving yourself and get better with everything like money, looks, your frame. To get a better girl in future.


The choice is yours.

 

[Blargh]

Don't we all want date a freak between the sheets? You are not her first. Decide if you want to be her last. Decide if you think you'll be her last. If you can't handle her past, move on. You should have never asked about sexual history if you weren't prepared for the worst.
A threesome when she was 19 or 20 shouldn't hold much water when she is 28. The recent drunk makeout would be more of a concern. Although if you broke up with her over being clingy, you basically told her to go find another man. I doubt you would have told her if you had a makeout session during your breakout either.
I would gauge it more on what she has done while the two of you were actually a couple. Or if she tried to lie after you found out about the makeout session. To me, her denying the makeout would be a much bigger red flag than anything else.

 

[.Bing.]

Comments in this thread are very entertaining.

- Told me how she had to take the morning after pill a few times with both of her ex-boyfriends and even did anal with one of them.

It would be weird if they didn't have sex. Do you think women never had sex with their ex boyfriends before? :crackup:

- She once got black out drunk at party and she had non-consensual sex with some guy, she was able to get away. She then called the guy the next day and wanted to talk to him and he told her to “never talk to him again”

Don't alphas do that to women after a bang?

- Dated one of her co-workers. I looked him up and saw that he was really ugly. I’m judging and it’s not right, but It grossed me out that they were actually an item because she always claimed she had high standards and I always believing her.

She isn't allowed to date men before you? I think you're making way too much of a big deal over this. Good luck finding a hot girl today who hasn't made out or had sex before. A lot of betas can't handle that for some reason.

 

[Jaylan]

Guys, why do you keep telling him that his attitude is the problem?

If his standard is to get a girlfriend who has not done a threesome or goes totally crazy after she's drunk some alcohol then why tell him otherwise?

I know there are a lot of girls out there who went crazy in their 16-24 BUT, if he doesn't want one of those girls, doesn't this forum exist to help and encourage guys like him to go after what they really want and not settle for anything less, does it?


I never ask exactly for a girls past, but as I already mentioned, sooner or later you and your guts will notice, when theres something wrong and when its time to leave.

I would never stay with a women who had a threesome in her past, rather would I stay single till the day I die then to lower my standard.

This.

1. Dont ask about a girl's past and dont allow her to tell you about it if you cannot handle it.

2. Dont commit to a woman whom you cannot accept for who she really is. If you want a more conservative gf, go find one, but accept the reality that every woman has a sexual past...and that many will not even be honest about those pasts.

 

[foreverAFC]

she sounds like a good time, enjoy banging her but just dont get her pregnant or marry her

 

[.Bing.]

You know it is a fvcked up sexual market when men are chastised for "not being able to handle" committing to a h0r.

Honestly, some guys here are seriously sex starved and fvcked in the head to run this kind of rationalization and put the blame onto men who actually have standards.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vM5dAxVsugw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zn5ci099cFc

You mad? He's already been committed to her for 6 months. Can't you handle women's past relationships? Can't handle an honest woman? Total clown you are pal, nobody is sex starved committing to a h0r lolz. Her sex is the normal sex most women have with their past boyfriends.