Girls you date are going to have sex and do kinky stuff way before you come along into the picture. Either accept it for what it is or look for a needle in the haystack virgin that will give it up without wanting marriage first.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
GF admitted some of her past to me. Not good.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Guys, why do you keep telling him that his attitude is the problem?
If his standard is to get a girlfriend who has not done a threesome or goes totally crazy after she's drunk some alcohol then why tell him otherwise?
I know there are a lot of girls out there who went crazy in their 16-24 BUT, if he doesn't want one of those girls, doesn't this forum exist to help and encourage guys like him to go after what they really want and not settle for anything less, does it?
I never ask exactly for a girls past, but as I already mentioned, sooner or later you and your guts will notice, when theres something wrong and when its time to leave.
I would never stay with a women who had a threesome in her past, rather would I stay single till the day I die then to lower my standard.
If his standard is to get a girlfriend who has not done a threesome or goes totally crazy after she's drunk some alcohol then why tell him otherwise?
I know there are a lot of girls out there who went crazy in their 16-24 BUT, if he doesn't want one of those girls, doesn't this forum exist to help and encourage guys like him to go after what they really want and not settle for anything less, does it?
I never ask exactly for a girls past, but as I already mentioned, sooner or later you and your guts will notice, when theres something wrong and when its time to leave.
I would never stay with a women who had a threesome in her past, rather would I stay single till the day I die then to lower my standard.
Between_The_Lines
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I wouldn't exactly refer to her as skidrow's finest, but that jerking off two d1cks at once story particularly is the one that stands out the most for sure. Pretty damn skanky in my view. She doesn't sound like relationship material.beachwood said:
Aside from the fact that you're going to wonder what else she has buried in her past, one of the main problems now that you've opened up Pandora's Box that I personally would be worried about looking ahead is: "can this girl actually be trusted when I'm not around?" Good luck getting some sleep the night she says she's having a girl's night out. And if you two tiff? I wouldn't put it past her to be the revenge hook up type either.
The two big takeaways that you ought to focus on here are:
-don't ask a girl about her sexual past
-take a deep interest in learning how to read and screen women before elevating them to a level of exclusivity
yea man only reason u is sick is cuz u know bout the sh@t she did fu@kin round before u 2 got hooked up. if she never told u that sh@t u wouldnt be the wiser. case in point dont ask, don't tell bout her past then it wont get to u. if u cant take it use her as a plate an get a new chick.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Greasy Pig
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Whenever I've done some disgusting shyt with a woman I've always laughed afterwards thinking about how her future husband would react if he ever found out. Now you're living it and it must be hell.
99% of women would have a skeleton in the closet re their sexual past.
Even the most seemingly delicate little flower.
As a rule, I never ask about a chick's history and I always assume I'm going to see her in some porn somewhere.
Low expectations, means no disappointments.
I think your goose is cooked on this one.
You've opened a door that can't be closed.
99% of women would have a skeleton in the closet re their sexual past.
Even the most seemingly delicate little flower.
As a rule, I never ask about a chick's history and I always assume I'm going to see her in some porn somewhere.
Low expectations, means no disappointments.
I think your goose is cooked on this one.
You've opened a door that can't be closed.
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My condolences dude. I honestly feel bad for you. My advice is to just end it. You will never be able to erase the mental imagery caused by her confessions. I've been with my girlfriend for about 18 months and if I found out she has done this kind of stuff -- I would next her. I have no tolerance for bad behavior / stupid decisions -- even if it was in the past.beachwood said:
There is a reason why you can't just walk in off the street to get a mortgage. The bank will weigh your past decisions and choices against the future risk. Essentially your girlfriend has "bad credit" and it unworthy of a "mortgage" (ie: relationship)
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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It's the truth but like I said "Ignorance is bliss."Peña said:
OP now has confirmation this girl is not worthy of a relationship so he should do the right thing and end it otherwise he will be haunted be her ghosts of d!cking's past
Your question "Let the world convict you of fraud if you admit your past actions? No?" is retarded. Makes no sense
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OP, I know its tough for you to deal with this situation, your brain knows that you can't accept a girl who has slept with so many guys but your feelings and "LOVE" for her is actually putting you in dilemma.
You feel great with her and if she never told you about her past then you would have still be in love with her, maybe you still are but that's not the point here.
The point is what should you do. You can do one of the following.
1. If you love or like her then try ignoring her past and act as if nothing happened because you can't change her past.
2. Start detaching yourself from her by going NO CONTACT but tell her that its better if we stop seeing/talking to each other.
3. Stay with her while simultaneously improving yourself/detaching yourself/having sex with her. Because if she is anything like you mentioned above then she won't stay in a relationship for more than 2 months. Enjoy the physical pleasures for the time being.
4. Dump her, Start improving yourself and get better with everything like money, looks, your frame. To get a better girl in future.
The choice is yours.
You feel great with her and if she never told you about her past then you would have still be in love with her, maybe you still are but that's not the point here.
The point is what should you do. You can do one of the following.
1. If you love or like her then try ignoring her past and act as if nothing happened because you can't change her past.
2. Start detaching yourself from her by going NO CONTACT but tell her that its better if we stop seeing/talking to each other.
3. Stay with her while simultaneously improving yourself/detaching yourself/having sex with her. Because if she is anything like you mentioned above then she won't stay in a relationship for more than 2 months. Enjoy the physical pleasures for the time being.
4. Dump her, Start improving yourself and get better with everything like money, looks, your frame. To get a better girl in future.
The choice is yours.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't we all want date a freak between the sheets? You are not her first. Decide if you want to be her last. Decide if you think you'll be her last. If you can't handle her past, move on. You should have never asked about sexual history if you weren't prepared for the worst.
A threesome when she was 19 or 20 shouldn't hold much water when she is 28. The recent drunk makeout would be more of a concern. Although if you broke up with her over being clingy, you basically told her to go find another man. I doubt you would have told her if you had a makeout session during your breakout either.
I would gauge it more on what she has done while the two of you were actually a couple. Or if she tried to lie after you found out about the makeout session. To me, her denying the makeout would be a much bigger red flag than anything else.
A threesome when she was 19 or 20 shouldn't hold much water when she is 28. The recent drunk makeout would be more of a concern. Although if you broke up with her over being clingy, you basically told her to go find another man. I doubt you would have told her if you had a makeout session during your breakout either.
I would gauge it more on what she has done while the two of you were actually a couple. Or if she tried to lie after you found out about the makeout session. To me, her denying the makeout would be a much bigger red flag than anything else.
Comments in this thread are very entertaining.
It would be weird if they didn't have sex. Do you think women never had sex with their ex boyfriends before? :crackup:beachwood said:
Don't alphas do that to women after a bang?beachwood said:
She isn't allowed to date men before you? I think you're making way too much of a big deal over this. Good luck finding a hot girl today who hasn't made out or had sex before. A lot of betas can't handle that for some reason.beachwood said:
This.soden said:
1. Dont ask about a girl's past and dont allow her to tell you about it if you cannot handle it.
2. Dont commit to a woman whom you cannot accept for who she really is. If you want a more conservative gf, go find one, but accept the reality that every woman has a sexual past...and that many will not even be honest about those pasts.
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she sounds like a good time, enjoy banging her but just dont get her pregnant or marry her
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vM5dAxVsugwDanger said:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zn5ci099cFc
You mad? He's already been committed to her for 6 months. Can't you handle women's past relationships? Can't handle an honest woman? Total clown you are pal, nobody is sex starved committing to a h0r lolz. Her sex is the normal sex most women have with their past boyfriends.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.