"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting told off..

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Today, a girl who I've never talk to told me off. Let me elaborate on why this happened..

Near the end of May, I got with a girl, which you can draw your own conclusion to. Anyway, this girl wouldn't stop calling, instant messaging, etc. She said she had gotten a friend of hers to agree to a threesome, the only thing is, this girl is a sister of a friend of mine (another girl). So I decided that it wouldn't be right to mess around like that with a friendship, and declined. Besides, if I really needed some, I could get it within about a week.

So anyway, the two of them walk by me today while I'm conversating with my friends on our plans tonight. As she walks by, I hear her friend say "How could you f*ck him?! He's ugly!" So I turned around and said "Would you like to say that again, you got my attention." She got right in my face and started telling me off. I assume it was bad, but I wasn't listening. I was looking at her for signs of attraction that she couldn't control. Keep in mind it was pretty bright out today. As I stared into her eyes, her pupils were very large (sign of attraction) and she was maintaining eye contact for longer than I thought she would.

Some of you may notice when being told off by a female friend of your female friend, they will break eye contact and point to the friend. This girl in particular, did not.

As she walked away, I kept my eyes on her, and within about 5 seconds, she turned around and looked at me for a little while, walking into someone.

What I don't understand about this, is that afterwards, I couldn't stop thinking about it. I was so attracted to the fact that she had the guts to tell me off, a complete stranger, so well, even though she was obviously attracted to me. So now I'm really attracted to the sister of my friend, and I don't know what it was.

It could be that she was attracted to me, and since I could tell, I became attracted to her (naturally, humans like others that like them). It could have been that I find her power attractive. I'm not too sure.

Anyone else ever have this happen to them? I'm at a loss for words on how to proceed with this..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FlyGuy

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LOL, crazy dude

I think she was just pissed that you declined to have sex with her. You knocked her ego in the dirt, so she felt like she had to find something wrong with you in order to console her tattered pride. I dunno if you can salvage it now, I've never had experience turning a girl's anger around into attraction.
 

DJ_Dork

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yawwwnn an ice berg just melted in front of me
 

Knicknack

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major props for maintaining control and just analyzing her... that is hilarious.
 

Ebach

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Definitely a sign of attraction. I mean the pupils don't matter much since she's screaming at you and all that adrenaline will do that **** to you. I agree with you though. She is attracted to you and can't handle not having your **** up her *****. You should forget this friendship thing and let those girls ride on top of you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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