"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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getting to know eachother//met her online.....

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noirsake

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I had a online dating profile and I only put a paragraph or two of stuff on it, but I got a response (I guess it was a pretty damn good paragraph). She asked if i wanted to chat sometime and i replied, "do you have msn messenger?" she says "no, but i would rather talk to you on the phone to get to know you better" im like damn that was easy.
my point
im gonna reply "ya, its good to know you like communicating like a normal person. whats your #?" assuming shes gonna give it to me, what the hell do I talk about when i call her to "get to know each other better"? Ive never been the best conversationalist on the phone and help of any sort would be AWESOME!!!

I know i need to use c&f and I have that handled, I just don't know what to say to "get to know each other better"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I hate talking on the phone, so I would just use it to set up a meet somewhere public, so she doesn't feel intimidated. You can get to know each other then. Phone is better than online, but in person is better than phone.
 
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Get the hell off the computer, get her on the phone as SOON as you can.
Say something such as this, "Hey.. I was thinking, how about I take you to a nice place sometime next week, I'm going to need your # for that though.. so we can finally talk like NORMAL people."
 
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Dark Chivalry

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Ask her out and have fun in person.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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noirsake said:
I had a online dating profile and I only put a paragraph or two of stuff on it, but I got a response (I guess it was a pretty damn good paragraph). She asked if i wanted to chat sometime and i replied, "do you have msn messenger?" she says "no, but i would rather talk to you on the phone to get to know you better" im like damn that was easy.
my point
im gonna reply "ya, its good to know you like communicating like a normal person. whats your #?" assuming shes gonna give it to me, what the hell do I talk about when i call her to "get to know each other better"? Ive never been the best conversationalist on the phone and help of any sort would be AWESOME!!!

I know i need to use c&f and I have that handled, I just don't know what to say to "get to know each other better"
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I would use the phone to set up a date, then get to know her in person. The Shocker put it well.
 
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