"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Getting Tired When Going Out

ThisIsSparta

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I'm 34 and I rarely do the bar scene anymore. I usually stick to sports bars. Recently I've consciously noticed how mentally drained and tired I get when going out, which is usually on Friday evenings after work. I know work has a lot to do with it but when hanging with other guys, I feel their energy levels are higher than mine. They're always flirting with the Hooters chicks or the female bartenders. Me? I mainly sit there not trying to start a meaningless conversation with any of them. I consider myself a good looking dude so my friend is always bringing girls around to chat and they do, but man I find it tiresome to entertain these chicks sometimes. Yesterday my bud asked if I was ok because this cute chick seemed to want to chat with me but I honestly just wanted to have my beers and watch whatever game was on tv. Could this be low T? I hate the thought of that. And it would be weird because I go pretty hard at the gym and lift pretty heavy and can feel the adrenaline. Anyway I don't like how things are going with me feeling so mentally drained when I'm out. I feel like some of my friends think I'm becoming lame. Any recommendations?
Being and introvert myself, could you be to a certain degree?
As i understand one can even become an introvert at a later point in life.

Introverts find it draining to be in crowds and they hate usually hate "meaningless conversation".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jaymbrs

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Being and introvert myself, could you be to a certain degree?
As i understand one can even become an introvert at a later point in life.

Introverts find it draining to be in crowds and they hate usually hate "meaningless conversation".
It's possible that I've transitioned to that outside of work. My job involves me speaking to people all day and I figured that would be the reason. But my buddy is in sales and he's a social butterfly outside of work. So not sure how that works.
 
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