"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting Tired When Going Out

ThisIsSparta

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I'm 34 and I rarely do the bar scene anymore. I usually stick to sports bars. Recently I've consciously noticed how mentally drained and tired I get when going out, which is usually on Friday evenings after work. I know work has a lot to do with it but when hanging with other guys, I feel their energy levels are higher than mine. They're always flirting with the Hooters chicks or the female bartenders. Me? I mainly sit there not trying to start a meaningless conversation with any of them. I consider myself a good looking dude so my friend is always bringing girls around to chat and they do, but man I find it tiresome to entertain these chicks sometimes. Yesterday my bud asked if I was ok because this cute chick seemed to want to chat with me but I honestly just wanted to have my beers and watch whatever game was on tv. Could this be low T? I hate the thought of that. And it would be weird because I go pretty hard at the gym and lift pretty heavy and can feel the adrenaline. Anyway I don't like how things are going with me feeling so mentally drained when I'm out. I feel like some of my friends think I'm becoming lame. Any recommendations?
Being and introvert myself, could you be to a certain degree?
As i understand one can even become an introvert at a later point in life.

Introverts find it draining to be in crowds and they hate usually hate "meaningless conversation".
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jaymbrs

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Being and introvert myself, could you be to a certain degree?
As i understand one can even become an introvert at a later point in life.

Introverts find it draining to be in crowds and they hate usually hate "meaningless conversation".
It's possible that I've transitioned to that outside of work. My job involves me speaking to people all day and I figured that would be the reason. But my buddy is in sales and he's a social butterfly outside of work. So not sure how that works.
 
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