"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Getting the 'Ummm'..when you ask for a number

mackdaddy27

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hey guys,
i open a set and i talk to them about where there from, what they do etc..and we shoot the shyt for a few minutes and when they usually have to go or something , I ask for the number,Sometimes, I get a response from them like 'umm'.. or have this unsure look to them. When I ask for the number, she usually go 'um....' or 'geez....' and go silent.. as theywant me to give them a reason, but I usually dont say anything. or say something indirect like 'want to ask you a question'. I usually dont end up getting the number when they say like this....why do girls sometimes give you that uncertain response
when you ask for the number and how to prevent it ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Instead of asking for the number try handing her your cell phone and say "I'd like to continue this conversation you should program your number". Don't give them an opportunity to say no or come up with excuses. At the same time if she is not feeling you then there's not much you can do about it.
 

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Okey let me enlighten you...

getting her number doesn't mean you have fvcked her...or you have created a lead...

I dont understand the obsession with the digits on this forum...

a phone number is as good as approching a chic in a bar and straight away ask to have sex...
 

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"Oh you dont have a phone? Sheesh too bad for you. I just assumed you would have what with it being the 21st centry and all (laugh + playful prod). Well dont worry we can improvise. Just give me your address and Ill drop you postcard sometimes"
 

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Attraction ain't there, or she wants to reject you and she's got no clue of how to do it. She probably ain't worth your time or will flake on you in the future.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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