There are numerious times where after a girl stays late at my apartment, she ends up leaving for the night, and I have no idea how to transition between her being over to her staying over for the night. Have aany advice/suggestions bout how I can get a girl to stay for the night at my place without sounding needy or desperate or anti-challenge?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Getting the girl to stay over
- Thread starter Jababa
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
josekortez
Don Juan
I've been trying to figure this one out myself. It's a pain paying all this rent at my place and then not getting some shine up in there.
With the few that have come over, we end up watching a DVD and then they get too comfortable. I think they have too much time to think about it.
I need to post a placard over the door that says, "No Shine, No Quality Time!"
With the few that have come over, we end up watching a DVD and then they get too comfortable. I think they have too much time to think about it.
I need to post a placard over the door that says, "No Shine, No Quality Time!"
undesputable
Master Don Juan
why do you want her to stay over? to **** her right? if everything is going good you got to grab your balls and make a bold move, move in for a kiss and everything should roll from there. unless shes a ***** shes not going to throw yourself at you or ask you "hey can i spend the night 
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"themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
how about asking?
coolguy676767
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Sex is the transition, she will know what you want if you ask her to spend the night, they are not that ignorant/stupid, so you have to grab your balls, and just start making moves that are of the DJ nature.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DJohnson
Don Juan
There are two good ways to make sure she stays over, better if done at the same time.
1. Build conmfort
2. Make her horny
You can build comfort with rapport and humor.
As far as making her horny, mild c+F can work, as well as kino while on the couch, progress this upwards.
You may ask, how to progress into kino and such. Well I rarely invite women into my apartment unless they know intuitively that I am sexually interested. If she comes in my apartment, kissing and kino are NO problem, because the sub text of our interaction is such that this is a requirement for hanging out with me in my apartment. If it backfires, oh well, I screwed up, you might want to leave, and I forget about this girl until she calls me back. In the meantime I am gaming other girls.
1. Build conmfort
2. Make her horny
You can build comfort with rapport and humor.
As far as making her horny, mild c+F can work, as well as kino while on the couch, progress this upwards.
You may ask, how to progress into kino and such. Well I rarely invite women into my apartment unless they know intuitively that I am sexually interested. If she comes in my apartment, kissing and kino are NO problem, because the sub text of our interaction is such that this is a requirement for hanging out with me in my apartment. If it backfires, oh well, I screwed up, you might want to leave, and I forget about this girl until she calls me back. In the meantime I am gaming other girls.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
They've got to have a reason to stay over. No offence but sounds as uf they are bored and end up leaving. Make it interesting enough for them to want to stay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's something that's interesting enought to make them want to stay. It works for me!