There are numerious times where after a girl stays late at my apartment, she ends up leaving for the night, and I have no idea how to transition between her being over to her staying over for the night. Have aany advice/suggestions bout how I can get a girl to stay for the night at my place without sounding needy or desperate or anti-challenge?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Getting the girl to stay over
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
josekortez
Don Juan
I've been trying to figure this one out myself. It's a pain paying all this rent at my place and then not getting some shine up in there.
With the few that have come over, we end up watching a DVD and then they get too comfortable. I think they have too much time to think about it.
I need to post a placard over the door that says, "No Shine, No Quality Time!"
With the few that have come over, we end up watching a DVD and then they get too comfortable. I think they have too much time to think about it.
I need to post a placard over the door that says, "No Shine, No Quality Time!"
undesputable
Master Don Juan
why do you want her to stay over? to **** her right? if everything is going good you got to grab your balls and make a bold move, move in for a kiss and everything should roll from there. unless shes a ***** shes not going to throw yourself at you or ask you "hey can i spend the night 
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"themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
how about asking?
coolguy676767
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Sex is the transition, she will know what you want if you ask her to spend the night, they are not that ignorant/stupid, so you have to grab your balls, and just start making moves that are of the DJ nature.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJohnson
Don Juan
There are two good ways to make sure she stays over, better if done at the same time.
1. Build conmfort
2. Make her horny
You can build comfort with rapport and humor.
As far as making her horny, mild c+F can work, as well as kino while on the couch, progress this upwards.
You may ask, how to progress into kino and such. Well I rarely invite women into my apartment unless they know intuitively that I am sexually interested. If she comes in my apartment, kissing and kino are NO problem, because the sub text of our interaction is such that this is a requirement for hanging out with me in my apartment. If it backfires, oh well, I screwed up, you might want to leave, and I forget about this girl until she calls me back. In the meantime I am gaming other girls.
1. Build conmfort
2. Make her horny
You can build comfort with rapport and humor.
As far as making her horny, mild c+F can work, as well as kino while on the couch, progress this upwards.
You may ask, how to progress into kino and such. Well I rarely invite women into my apartment unless they know intuitively that I am sexually interested. If she comes in my apartment, kissing and kino are NO problem, because the sub text of our interaction is such that this is a requirement for hanging out with me in my apartment. If it backfires, oh well, I screwed up, you might want to leave, and I forget about this girl until she calls me back. In the meantime I am gaming other girls.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
They've got to have a reason to stay over. No offence but sounds as uf they are bored and end up leaving. Make it interesting enough for them to want to stay.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's something that's interesting enought to make them want to stay. It works for me!