"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting shot down

david90

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What are you thinking when u see a guy getting shot down?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Cbaoth

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I think at least he had the balls to give it a shot, unlike the rest of the guys that stand around poking fun at him (usually the ones who don't have the confidence to approach).
 

HHloser2

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Originally posted by Cbaoth
I think at least he had the balls to give it a shot, unlike the rest of the guys that stand around poking fun at him (usually the ones who don't have the confidence to approach).
Exactly, If ppl try to laugh at you smack em with "at least i had the balls" see them stfu.
 

xomel

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I say "hah, what a bltch, im gonna go over there and see wtf her problem is"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vincent

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Originally posted by xomel
I say "hah, what a bltch, im gonna go over there and see wtf her problem is"
thats even worse than the people who make fun of him, cause your assuming she's a bltch instead of find out fer yourself.

What i would do is go over there and try to pick her up, either cold or find out what he did so i don't make the same mistakes ;).

--Vincent
 

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Dude(s) - Not every girl does - or has to - like you. It's a fact.

In the last four years, I've dated around...I dont know, 10 people or so. I've got shot down three times, even though I thought I had the girl exactly where I wanted. It happens. If you let getting shot down bother you, it's just going to breed hesitation in your mind. Hesitation that it will happen again. Not that it can happen again (because it can), but that it will happen every time you try.

Don't go there.

Just look down your shorts and say "yep, they're still there" and get yourself back in the game.
 

xomel

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Originally posted by Vincent
thats even worse than the people who make fun of him, cause your assuming she's a bltch instead of find out fer yourself.

What i would do is go over there and try to pick her up, either cold or find out what he did so i don't make the same mistakes ;).

--Vincent
I'm sorry but a person is a ***** in my mind if you approach them friendly and normally without a corny line or something and they shoot you down. Shoot you down like they are in some way better than you, then yeah Im going to assume shes a *****. But, if he uses some corny line then I'd say "HAh, what an AFC, let me go show him how its done."

That doesnt mean you should give up if its a *****, it just means you should treat her differently.

Find out what he did wrong? Wonder about it, think about it, let it buzz aruond in your mind for 3 minutes. Then drastically approach her, showing the signals that youve been thinking about her for the past three minutes.
 

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How 4000 people die of hunger in Africa per day.
 

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I figure you're asking this question cuz u think it will help you to realize that no one cares if you get shot down. DO NOT think of it like that. NEVER look at yourself in a third person perspective cuz it'll make you less confident and hurt ur self image.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sir Lancelot

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Originally posted by xomel
I'm sorry but a person is a ***** in my mind if you approach them friendly and normally without a corny line or something and they shoot you down. Shoot you down like they are in some way better than you, then yeah Im going to assume shes a *****. But, if he uses some corny line then I'd say "HAh, what an AFC, let me go show him how its done."

That doesnt mean you should give up if its a *****, it just means you should treat her differently.

Find out what he did wrong? Wonder about it, think about it, let it buzz aruond in your mind for 3 minutes. Then drastically approach her, showing the signals that youve been thinking about her for the past three minutes.
What if she's had a bad day? What if she just isn't attracted to you?
 

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It's all relative. Last time, the chick thought she was all superior to the guy and she was really... not superior hehe. My female friends (2 scorching hot babes) then proceeded to pick HIM up in front of the other biatch. I then proceeded to approach the chick that shot the guy down. Right before I reached her and everyone was watching, I changed directions and headed towards a chick some 3 feet away from the biatch and chatted her up. My other male friend took a pitcure of HB biatch's reaction. Priceless.

Public humialiation. My favorite. Only works on the insecure. Only used on the insecure.
 
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