"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Getting shot down

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What are you thinking when u see a guy getting shot down?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think at least he had the balls to give it a shot, unlike the rest of the guys that stand around poking fun at him (usually the ones who don't have the confidence to approach).
 
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Originally posted by Cbaoth
I think at least he had the balls to give it a shot, unlike the rest of the guys that stand around poking fun at him (usually the ones who don't have the confidence to approach).
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Exactly, If ppl try to laugh at you smack em with "at least i had the balls" see them stfu.
 
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I say "hah, what a bltch, im gonna go over there and see wtf her problem is"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by xomel
I say "hah, what a bltch, im gonna go over there and see wtf her problem is"
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thats even worse than the people who make fun of him, cause your assuming she's a bltch instead of find out fer yourself.

What i would do is go over there and try to pick her up, either cold or find out what he did so i don't make the same mistakes ;).

--Vincent
 
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Dude(s) - Not every girl does - or has to - like you. It's a fact.

In the last four years, I've dated around...I dont know, 10 people or so. I've got shot down three times, even though I thought I had the girl exactly where I wanted. It happens. If you let getting shot down bother you, it's just going to breed hesitation in your mind. Hesitation that it will happen again. Not that it can happen again (because it can), but that it will happen every time you try.

Don't go there.

Just look down your shorts and say "yep, they're still there" and get yourself back in the game.
 
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Originally posted by Vincent
thats even worse than the people who make fun of him, cause your assuming she's a bltch instead of find out fer yourself.

What i would do is go over there and try to pick her up, either cold or find out what he did so i don't make the same mistakes ;).

--Vincent
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I'm sorry but a person is a ***** in my mind if you approach them friendly and normally without a corny line or something and they shoot you down. Shoot you down like they are in some way better than you, then yeah Im going to assume shes a *****. But, if he uses some corny line then I'd say "HAh, what an AFC, let me go show him how its done."

That doesnt mean you should give up if its a *****, it just means you should treat her differently.

Find out what he did wrong? Wonder about it, think about it, let it buzz aruond in your mind for 3 minutes. Then drastically approach her, showing the signals that youve been thinking about her for the past three minutes.
 
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How 4000 people die of hunger in Africa per day.
 
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I figure you're asking this question cuz u think it will help you to realize that no one cares if you get shot down. DO NOT think of it like that. NEVER look at yourself in a third person perspective cuz it'll make you less confident and hurt ur self image.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by xomel
I'm sorry but a person is a ***** in my mind if you approach them friendly and normally without a corny line or something and they shoot you down. Shoot you down like they are in some way better than you, then yeah Im going to assume shes a *****. But, if he uses some corny line then I'd say "HAh, what an AFC, let me go show him how its done."

That doesnt mean you should give up if its a *****, it just means you should treat her differently.

Find out what he did wrong? Wonder about it, think about it, let it buzz aruond in your mind for 3 minutes. Then drastically approach her, showing the signals that youve been thinking about her for the past three minutes.
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What if she's had a bad day? What if she just isn't attracted to you?
 
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It's all relative. Last time, the chick thought she was all superior to the guy and she was really... not superior hehe. My female friends (2 scorching hot babes) then proceeded to pick HIM up in front of the other biatch. I then proceeded to approach the chick that shot the guy down. Right before I reached her and everyone was watching, I changed directions and headed towards a chick some 3 feet away from the biatch and chatted her up. My other male friend took a pitcure of HB biatch's reaction. Priceless.

Public humialiation. My favorite. Only works on the insecure. Only used on the insecure.
 
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