"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting #'s is not hard keeping attention is

Chosen1

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I'm not a big player actually I've only been with 2 women my whole life. But I have had lot and lots and lots of girls #'s. It's really easy as everyone says you just act like your pretty much god's gift to women and tell them "I need to get to know you better", or "I don't know when I will see you again" etc that is the easy part. I can not keep these hoes attention for the life of me. The only way I can think of is taking away attention but that's getting old. Let's discuss this problem of mine.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PapiChulo

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It is a good observation there.

me thinks it has to do with unpredictability, mystery, and sex. How to do all this with the woman you just met I still have no idea.
 

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Getting numbers? A number is nothing what so ever. I stopped counting the number of numbers I can get along time ago. The number is just the beginning. I have a number for every letter of the alphabet a girls name could begin with, but I'm only proud of the numbers of the ones I goose
 

Thundernuts

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Yeah same here, numbers aren't even half the battle like they are made out to be. It's keeping them interested thats half the battle. Getting a number is a good start though. You act cool and collect, you want her number because you have something else to do. Thats it, all your dealings with the girl are as easy as getting her number if you do it right, always leave her wanting more, don't make time to give her everything. Once she has you figured out, the game is up, your married.

Its as easy as flipping a light switch.
 

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I disagree about numbers being nothing. while they may come easily, i'd like to believe that it's a green light. that's if the number is legit of course. Basically it means the interaction was good enough that she felt comfortable giving you her digits. If you creeped her out or were acting a little suspicious, she would of gave you an excuse and not have given you her number.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I almost always get a phone number, and it's almost always legit. She'll only avoid giving it to you if you're creepy, annoying, or if she's just really private (this is rare).

Getting it is only one part, though. She can just not answer you back, and most guys take the hint pretty quickly.
 

PapiChulo

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fuk them numbers, I am trying to build something right at the spot now-sorta like insta-date in a way. Thats when the number actually represents something, when you know you made her feel something.
 

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Follow up on all the girls you get numbers from, every single one. It's a numbers game in itself, your chance of success may not be that high but the more you follow up, the more you'll close.

Even if she gives you her number, it doesn't mean you've built enough attraction between the two of you. Try building more rapport and attraction when you first meet her even after you get her number, at least enough for her to remember you when you call her. If she remembers you, and remembers the attraction she felt for you, she'll follow up when you call her back.
 

joe henny

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BongDuy said:
I disagree about numbers being nothing. while they may come easily, i'd like to believe that it's a green light. that's if the number is legit of course. Basically it means the interaction was good enough that she felt comfortable giving you her digits. If you creeped her out or were acting a little suspicious, she would of gave you an excuse and not have given you her number.
This is why I disagree. Their are different reasons girls give numbers besides attraction.
1. I see this all the time they feel bad about rejecting you. Contrary to popular opinion on this site all women are not evil and out to hurt you their are some genuine nice ones out there.

2. The easiest way to get rid of you

3. The worst ones. The ones who know as soon as they give it out they're gonna ignore your calls

Getting the number is a good start though but don't over glorify something so common that happens everyday remember the rest of the work is now determined by how you make her feel about you homie.

The key is: "Tell her any thing she needs to hear to get her to give you what you want"
 

Mantis Toboggan

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joe henny said:
This is why I disagree. Their are different reasons girls give numbers besides attraction.
1. I see this all the time they feel bad about rejecting you. Contrary to popular opinion on this site all women are not evil and out to hurt you their are some genuine nice ones out there.

2. The easiest way to get rid of you

3. The worst ones. The ones who know as soon as they give it out they're gonna ignore your calls

Getting the number is a good start though but don't over glorify something so common that happens everyday remember the rest of the work is now determined by how you make her feel about you homie.

The key is: "Tell her any thing she needs to hear to get her to give you what you want"
I agree with your posts in this thread, player.

Getting a number isn't even half the battle. I've had nights where I have a girl's complete, attention...she's laughing at my jokes, I get her number and when I call, she doesn't respond. Who knows why. And who cares.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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