"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting #'s is not hard keeping attention is

Chosen1

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I'm not a big player actually I've only been with 2 women my whole life. But I have had lot and lots and lots of girls #'s. It's really easy as everyone says you just act like your pretty much god's gift to women and tell them "I need to get to know you better", or "I don't know when I will see you again" etc that is the easy part. I can not keep these hoes attention for the life of me. The only way I can think of is taking away attention but that's getting old. Let's discuss this problem of mine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PapiChulo

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It is a good observation there.

me thinks it has to do with unpredictability, mystery, and sex. How to do all this with the woman you just met I still have no idea.
 

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Getting numbers? A number is nothing what so ever. I stopped counting the number of numbers I can get along time ago. The number is just the beginning. I have a number for every letter of the alphabet a girls name could begin with, but I'm only proud of the numbers of the ones I goose
 

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Yeah same here, numbers aren't even half the battle like they are made out to be. It's keeping them interested thats half the battle. Getting a number is a good start though. You act cool and collect, you want her number because you have something else to do. Thats it, all your dealings with the girl are as easy as getting her number if you do it right, always leave her wanting more, don't make time to give her everything. Once she has you figured out, the game is up, your married.

Its as easy as flipping a light switch.
 

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I disagree about numbers being nothing. while they may come easily, i'd like to believe that it's a green light. that's if the number is legit of course. Basically it means the interaction was good enough that she felt comfortable giving you her digits. If you creeped her out or were acting a little suspicious, she would of gave you an excuse and not have given you her number.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I almost always get a phone number, and it's almost always legit. She'll only avoid giving it to you if you're creepy, annoying, or if she's just really private (this is rare).

Getting it is only one part, though. She can just not answer you back, and most guys take the hint pretty quickly.
 

PapiChulo

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fuk them numbers, I am trying to build something right at the spot now-sorta like insta-date in a way. Thats when the number actually represents something, when you know you made her feel something.
 

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Follow up on all the girls you get numbers from, every single one. It's a numbers game in itself, your chance of success may not be that high but the more you follow up, the more you'll close.

Even if she gives you her number, it doesn't mean you've built enough attraction between the two of you. Try building more rapport and attraction when you first meet her even after you get her number, at least enough for her to remember you when you call her. If she remembers you, and remembers the attraction she felt for you, she'll follow up when you call her back.
 

joe henny

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BongDuy said:
I disagree about numbers being nothing. while they may come easily, i'd like to believe that it's a green light. that's if the number is legit of course. Basically it means the interaction was good enough that she felt comfortable giving you her digits. If you creeped her out or were acting a little suspicious, she would of gave you an excuse and not have given you her number.
This is why I disagree. Their are different reasons girls give numbers besides attraction.
1. I see this all the time they feel bad about rejecting you. Contrary to popular opinion on this site all women are not evil and out to hurt you their are some genuine nice ones out there.

2. The easiest way to get rid of you

3. The worst ones. The ones who know as soon as they give it out they're gonna ignore your calls

Getting the number is a good start though but don't over glorify something so common that happens everyday remember the rest of the work is now determined by how you make her feel about you homie.

The key is: "Tell her any thing she needs to hear to get her to give you what you want"
 

Mantis Toboggan

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joe henny said:
This is why I disagree. Their are different reasons girls give numbers besides attraction.
1. I see this all the time they feel bad about rejecting you. Contrary to popular opinion on this site all women are not evil and out to hurt you their are some genuine nice ones out there.

2. The easiest way to get rid of you

3. The worst ones. The ones who know as soon as they give it out they're gonna ignore your calls

Getting the number is a good start though but don't over glorify something so common that happens everyday remember the rest of the work is now determined by how you make her feel about you homie.

The key is: "Tell her any thing she needs to hear to get her to give you what you want"
I agree with your posts in this thread, player.

Getting a number isn't even half the battle. I've had nights where I have a girl's complete, attention...she's laughing at my jokes, I get her number and when I call, she doesn't respond. Who knows why. And who cares.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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