So I’ve been NC with my now ex for about 3 weeks. I have no desire to reach out to her, however she still has some stuff of mine that’s important I get back. What’s the best (read: least drama) way to go about getting it back?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Getting possessions back while NC
- Thread starter JonnyD123
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Serenity
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Ask for your stuff. If anything other than compliance then demand your stuff, don't argue any points, insist on getting your possessions. If she doesn't give your stuff then report it to the police.
corrector
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What were you doing in North Carolina with your ex?
Serenity
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Not sure if joking, misunderstood or honestly don't know what NC means in this context. NC means No Contact.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
i shipped my ex's stuff to her in Moscow, after a period of NC, i simply messaged her and asked for an address to send it or i will donate it, she snapped a pic of her business card, and I didnt reply, I sent it.
you should do the same
you should do the same
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
buy new stuff