"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Getting past the sexual boundary

styleman

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Damn it, I'm good with women, they like me no problems there.

Few times girls have initiated with me and I haven't had a problem.

I just cannot make the first move... touching and kino not a problem, but leveling up to even a kiss is a problem for me.

What is wrong with me? How do I overcome this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Allurre

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Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.
 

styleman

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Allurre said:
Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.


Thanks for the advice! It's not that I'm nervous its just that it doesn't seem to happen, really don't know why....
I mean the opportunity is there, I'm touching her arm etc. she's clearly enjoying it and they usually have said things that would indicate clear interest in me, but I just cannot see the opportunity to kiss, let along start taking her clothes off....
 

WhtRbt

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When you are with a girl, if you get a feeling like you want to kiss her, then just try it. Just kiss her whenever you want. Just do it. The first few tries may be awkward. But after a few times, you'll get the feel for when to kiss her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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