"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting past the sexual boundary

styleman

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Damn it, I'm good with women, they like me no problems there.

Few times girls have initiated with me and I haven't had a problem.

I just cannot make the first move... touching and kino not a problem, but leveling up to even a kiss is a problem for me.

What is wrong with me? How do I overcome this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Allurre

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Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.
 

styleman

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Allurre said:
Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.


Thanks for the advice! It's not that I'm nervous its just that it doesn't seem to happen, really don't know why....
I mean the opportunity is there, I'm touching her arm etc. she's clearly enjoying it and they usually have said things that would indicate clear interest in me, but I just cannot see the opportunity to kiss, let along start taking her clothes off....
 

WhtRbt

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When you are with a girl, if you get a feeling like you want to kiss her, then just try it. Just kiss her whenever you want. Just do it. The first few tries may be awkward. But after a few times, you'll get the feel for when to kiss her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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