"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Getting past the sexual boundary

styleman

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Damn it, I'm good with women, they like me no problems there.

Few times girls have initiated with me and I haven't had a problem.

I just cannot make the first move... touching and kino not a problem, but leveling up to even a kiss is a problem for me.

What is wrong with me? How do I overcome this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Allurre

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Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.
 

styleman

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Allurre said:
Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.


Thanks for the advice! It's not that I'm nervous its just that it doesn't seem to happen, really don't know why....
I mean the opportunity is there, I'm touching her arm etc. she's clearly enjoying it and they usually have said things that would indicate clear interest in me, but I just cannot see the opportunity to kiss, let along start taking her clothes off....
 

WhtRbt

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When you are with a girl, if you get a feeling like you want to kiss her, then just try it. Just kiss her whenever you want. Just do it. The first few tries may be awkward. But after a few times, you'll get the feel for when to kiss her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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