"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Getting past the sexual boundary

styleman

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Damn it, I'm good with women, they like me no problems there.

Few times girls have initiated with me and I haven't had a problem.

I just cannot make the first move... touching and kino not a problem, but leveling up to even a kiss is a problem for me.

What is wrong with me? How do I overcome this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Allurre

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Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.
 

styleman

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Allurre said:
Hey bro,

Don't even worry. We've all been there.

The quickest way to defeat this problem is trick your mind into believing that "getting it on" ,or "making the first move" is NOTHING new to you.

Drill this into your head bro. It's nothing NEW.


Thanks for the advice! It's not that I'm nervous its just that it doesn't seem to happen, really don't know why....
I mean the opportunity is there, I'm touching her arm etc. she's clearly enjoying it and they usually have said things that would indicate clear interest in me, but I just cannot see the opportunity to kiss, let along start taking her clothes off....
 

WhtRbt

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When you are with a girl, if you get a feeling like you want to kiss her, then just try it. Just kiss her whenever you want. Just do it. The first few tries may be awkward. But after a few times, you'll get the feel for when to kiss her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

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