"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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getting over your fears! and being confident!

Shiraz

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this is a guide of getting over fears, do not give me the credit i found it on another site but it helped me with my fears so i think it will with you guys and girls if you have any enjoy
( url of site at bottom)


Dealing With Personal Fears


Do you have fears about dating? Many people have fears about dating (some fears are known and some are unknown). As you deal with individual fears such as saying the wrong things or not knowing what to say or do, you will begin to gain confidence. The best way to prepare yourself is to think about possible situations that may arise and think how you would respond. If you have made mistakes while dating in the past think through ways you could have effectively responded in the same situation. Learning to be a fun date does take practice.

Be Confident!


Asking someone out takes confidence. In fact, people who are more confident are more likely to get a first date with someone. Why is this so? Success comes in how we communicate (both verbal and non-verbal). Have you ever analyzed what verbal and non-verbal messages you send to perspective dating partners? If you are struggling with confidence, I suggest that you step back and evaluate what is keeping you from being confident in your dating. Once you have done this create a game plan to develop more confidence. This should help you feel more confident. Go forward with confidence. It will impact how you are received.

do not give me the credit for these tips but u can still reply and say whate ever and now heres the website of where i got the tips from date.lifetips.com/Cat.asp__Q__id__E__55987 enjoy :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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gav

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i think pook said it best

Oh, we are undone! The forum, that was our salvation, is now destroying us!

But what is the purpose of writing and reading? Every now and then, as common as it is seen almost weekly, appears a tip from a freshly registered member that says,

"H3LLO GENT5LMEN! U NEED CONF7IDENCE TO GET DA WOAHMAN!"

Immediately, I pick up the Pook phone and call Allen's top secret number. "Allen! Did you read that tip? It is about confidence! Who would have thought!?"

Allen puts forth the emergency meeting. All the elder Don Juans meet in the super secret forum (that no one knows!) as we react to this discovery.

"Getting women has something to do with CONFIDENCE? Why, who would have thought!?" says one.

"Not I!" said an elder Don Juan. "Confidence is needed to get women? Incredible tip!"

"The tip will alter people's lives," one solemny declared. "Until that newbie poster spoke, no one knew about confidence!"
 

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Gav your an *******...the guy is trying to help out people who have NO CONFIDENCE.

Instead of being a complete ****!,either make a comment that is useful towards this post...or don't reply..SIMPLE!

Actually i love it when newbie guys say things like this...it's new blood and new ideas (well some)

Give the guy a break as probally people did for you when you were a newbie afc huh?!.
 

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What if you're not confident in things outside of dating/asking girls out?
Like what if you're in a situation where you freak out and just freeze up?
 

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well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
Err.. should you be giving advice like this when you post stuff like:

how can i talk to really popular girls??
 

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well thats how i became more confident and thats old now u dum ****
Wow, you really do seem more confident now. How's it going with the popular girls?
 

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Huh?

How can you say that's old? You posted that like a week ago!
 

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
Telling shy people to "go talk to five strangers a day" doesn't work. THEY ARE SHY!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This shiraz is a troll.. I got him on msn threating to stab me and ****... He claimed talking to a girl was like being in a room with 10000000 helicopters with rockets pointed at u and u had to get out.. Hes a little troll. Ignore everything HE types..
 

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Originally posted by Shiraz
wtf u on about jiza ur gettin banned now
Are you okay Shiraz? Did he hurt you?

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