"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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getting over your fears! and being confident!

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this is a guide of getting over fears, do not give me the credit i found it on another site but it helped me with my fears so i think it will with you guys and girls if you have any enjoy
( url of site at bottom)


Dealing With Personal Fears


Do you have fears about dating? Many people have fears about dating (some fears are known and some are unknown). As you deal with individual fears such as saying the wrong things or not knowing what to say or do, you will begin to gain confidence. The best way to prepare yourself is to think about possible situations that may arise and think how you would respond. If you have made mistakes while dating in the past think through ways you could have effectively responded in the same situation. Learning to be a fun date does take practice.

Be Confident!


Asking someone out takes confidence. In fact, people who are more confident are more likely to get a first date with someone. Why is this so? Success comes in how we communicate (both verbal and non-verbal). Have you ever analyzed what verbal and non-verbal messages you send to perspective dating partners? If you are struggling with confidence, I suggest that you step back and evaluate what is keeping you from being confident in your dating. Once you have done this create a game plan to develop more confidence. This should help you feel more confident. Go forward with confidence. It will impact how you are received.

do not give me the credit for these tips but u can still reply and say whate ever and now heres the website of where i got the tips from date.lifetips.com/Cat.asp__Q__id__E__55987 enjoy :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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gav

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i think pook said it best

Oh, we are undone! The forum, that was our salvation, is now destroying us!

But what is the purpose of writing and reading? Every now and then, as common as it is seen almost weekly, appears a tip from a freshly registered member that says,

"H3LLO GENT5LMEN! U NEED CONF7IDENCE TO GET DA WOAHMAN!"

Immediately, I pick up the Pook phone and call Allen's top secret number. "Allen! Did you read that tip? It is about confidence! Who would have thought!?"

Allen puts forth the emergency meeting. All the elder Don Juans meet in the super secret forum (that no one knows!) as we react to this discovery.

"Getting women has something to do with CONFIDENCE? Why, who would have thought!?" says one.

"Not I!" said an elder Don Juan. "Confidence is needed to get women? Incredible tip!"

"The tip will alter people's lives," one solemny declared. "Until that newbie poster spoke, no one knew about confidence!"
 

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Gav your an *******...the guy is trying to help out people who have NO CONFIDENCE.

Instead of being a complete ****!,either make a comment that is useful towards this post...or don't reply..SIMPLE!

Actually i love it when newbie guys say things like this...it's new blood and new ideas (well some)

Give the guy a break as probally people did for you when you were a newbie afc huh?!.
 

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What if you're not confident in things outside of dating/asking girls out?
Like what if you're in a situation where you freak out and just freeze up?
 

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well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
Err.. should you be giving advice like this when you post stuff like:

how can i talk to really popular girls??
 

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well thats how i became more confident and thats old now u dum ****
Wow, you really do seem more confident now. How's it going with the popular girls?
 

Ever onward

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Huh?

How can you say that's old? You posted that like a week ago!
 

jonny football hero

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Originally posted by Shiraz
well then u need to build up ur confidence like talk to 5 strangers a day make sure there not rough tho and make sure there ur own age
Telling shy people to "go talk to five strangers a day" doesn't work. THEY ARE SHY!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This shiraz is a troll.. I got him on msn threating to stab me and ****... He claimed talking to a girl was like being in a room with 10000000 helicopters with rockets pointed at u and u had to get out.. Hes a little troll. Ignore everything HE types..
 

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Originally posted by Shiraz
wtf u on about jiza ur gettin banned now
Are you okay Shiraz? Did he hurt you?

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