"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting over her.

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We all have standards. Some are real low and others are extremly high and strict. This is for those of us who care about who we date. Nothing but the best.

There aren't many quality people in the world. Not many at all. Even less is the number of quality girls. And when you finally get her and eventually break up with her... You can't stop thinking of her.

She is an hb9, captain of her soccer team, star of the school play, have a very nice tan and every guy dreams of being with her.

Such girls are rare. Girls that are doing something with their lives, engaging in activites besides getting high or drunk. And when we find them, we don't ever want to let go. Look how much time it took us to find them!

This is 1 side of the coin. The other, the one we never look at for some reason, is us. Me, you, don juan!

Yes this girl is doing something with her life. But so are we. We, infact, are doing MORE with our lives than she is. We, the don juans, are even rarer than these quality girls. Because they are mere quality and we are pure gold, we realise that once again, we are the prize. We are what should be sought for a simple reason: we are worth more than the chick.

Yeah it sucks, you wish you still had her. Why? Because she was worth it. She was finally worth it. But that was then, and this is now. She's still in your mind all day long. Even worse, you have to see her almost every day! But what does it matter?

She's been eliminated from the game. No longer shall she have the honor of being part of your life. Put yourself in her position, it sucks worse than yours!

It's important to want to forget about her. It's important to be man enough to let go of the past. More importantly, remembering that she lost more than you did and if anybody should be haunted by the other it's her. Your life didn't revolve around her at one time and you were happy. May that era return.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bible-worthy post.
You, my friend, are the man at this. Great style of writing btw. Enjoy your threads.

Wish I'd read thsi 11 months ago :p It only took me say...4-5 months on my own to realize all that. Anyone on tis site who ever breaksupw ith they're gf should be forced to read this.
good job man.
 

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LOL....

I haven't seen him this...sentimental before. Most of the time he's busting on the newbies retardedness, :p. Well, I suppose there's more to everyone than meets the eye. Good post, Lik.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lik for administrator status.

lik deserves his own title. although hes not a mod hes the new pook.
 

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whoa chill out there, your nose is turning brown.
 

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Hahaha.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Wacky-1
Most of the time he's busting on the newbies retardedness
Quite abundant. You'd think he's getting paid for it.
 

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Sorry that I never post in these forums anymore, but I was just about to puke after reading that page long post on how to get over a girl. Honestly you guys are putting a lot of thought into a very simple and natural thing. My advice for getting over a girl? She's so sweet, she's so cute, she's one of a kind, right? Well, go on dates with 10 other girls and then tell me how much you still care about that *very special* girl.
 
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