"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Getting My Dating Life Back...I Hope

chickenlegs03

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Okay, I just posted that I've had a "problem" (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100100) getting laid lately...meaning in the last 3 and a half months of moving to a new town.

I guess the consensus was that the reason I am no longer getting much attention from women here is because it's really all in my head. I've felt the girls here are reserved and not really receptive...and that they give an asexual vibe, imo.

Whether or not that's the case, I really have to get my "mojo" back. I have nothing to lose, so I figured I'd make a thread simply to keep myself obligated to following through with it. Sort of like a reminder to make me make a conscious effort because I otherwise wouldn't.

I really miss the days girls would smile and wave at me or just start talking to me. Hopefully, though, I've just been deluding myself all along and that's still around the corner...somewhere.

Actually, most of my dating/sex life was from clubs, which I no longer go to. I don't drink any more either or stay out late. It's really not healthy, and the quality of people in those venues is not great.

So, I'll update as often as possible. And hopefully you guys are right about it all being in my head. And that I actually have not lost all desiribility in my new town for some strange reason. I am pretty busy, so "making an effort," for me, will consist of making conversations here and there when I get a chance. I think I do get the chance to, but felt it would be pointless when the girl is not already showing signs of being attracted to me...but I guess that's the wrong mentality, so I'm going to just make an effort anyway.

Goals: To start dating 1 girl.

Yes, I am setting my goal very low. Because I doubt I could even reach that. It seems very out of reach to me...as pathetic as that is...I really laugh at myself for it...but I think if I can get to that then I'll up the goal to several dates, then to getting a girlfriend or something.

Deadline: Having gone nearly 4 months without any action...I'm not really putting a deadline on this.

(side note: I don't masturbate)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Charm

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Good luck. Set your goals higher, so if you fall short, you still made it further. Shoot for the moon!
 

Jackman

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Geez. Almost sounds like you moved to Boston from out of town.

Whatever the case may be, don't hold back. Be the guy you've always been even if it feels unnatural somehow in your new surroundings. It's better to be different than to be fake (trying to fit in). Always remeber that much.
 
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