"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Getting My Dating Life Back...I Hope

chickenlegs03

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Okay, I just posted that I've had a "problem" (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100100) getting laid lately...meaning in the last 3 and a half months of moving to a new town.

I guess the consensus was that the reason I am no longer getting much attention from women here is because it's really all in my head. I've felt the girls here are reserved and not really receptive...and that they give an asexual vibe, imo.

Whether or not that's the case, I really have to get my "mojo" back. I have nothing to lose, so I figured I'd make a thread simply to keep myself obligated to following through with it. Sort of like a reminder to make me make a conscious effort because I otherwise wouldn't.

I really miss the days girls would smile and wave at me or just start talking to me. Hopefully, though, I've just been deluding myself all along and that's still around the corner...somewhere.

Actually, most of my dating/sex life was from clubs, which I no longer go to. I don't drink any more either or stay out late. It's really not healthy, and the quality of people in those venues is not great.

So, I'll update as often as possible. And hopefully you guys are right about it all being in my head. And that I actually have not lost all desiribility in my new town for some strange reason. I am pretty busy, so "making an effort," for me, will consist of making conversations here and there when I get a chance. I think I do get the chance to, but felt it would be pointless when the girl is not already showing signs of being attracted to me...but I guess that's the wrong mentality, so I'm going to just make an effort anyway.

Goals: To start dating 1 girl.

Yes, I am setting my goal very low. Because I doubt I could even reach that. It seems very out of reach to me...as pathetic as that is...I really laugh at myself for it...but I think if I can get to that then I'll up the goal to several dates, then to getting a girlfriend or something.

Deadline: Having gone nearly 4 months without any action...I'm not really putting a deadline on this.

(side note: I don't masturbate)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Charm

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Good luck. Set your goals higher, so if you fall short, you still made it further. Shoot for the moon!
 

Jackman

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Geez. Almost sounds like you moved to Boston from out of town.

Whatever the case may be, don't hold back. Be the guy you've always been even if it feels unnatural somehow in your new surroundings. It's better to be different than to be fake (trying to fit in). Always remeber that much.
 
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