"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting My Dating Life Back...I Hope

chickenlegs03

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Okay, I just posted that I've had a "problem" (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100100) getting laid lately...meaning in the last 3 and a half months of moving to a new town.

I guess the consensus was that the reason I am no longer getting much attention from women here is because it's really all in my head. I've felt the girls here are reserved and not really receptive...and that they give an asexual vibe, imo.

Whether or not that's the case, I really have to get my "mojo" back. I have nothing to lose, so I figured I'd make a thread simply to keep myself obligated to following through with it. Sort of like a reminder to make me make a conscious effort because I otherwise wouldn't.

I really miss the days girls would smile and wave at me or just start talking to me. Hopefully, though, I've just been deluding myself all along and that's still around the corner...somewhere.

Actually, most of my dating/sex life was from clubs, which I no longer go to. I don't drink any more either or stay out late. It's really not healthy, and the quality of people in those venues is not great.

So, I'll update as often as possible. And hopefully you guys are right about it all being in my head. And that I actually have not lost all desiribility in my new town for some strange reason. I am pretty busy, so "making an effort," for me, will consist of making conversations here and there when I get a chance. I think I do get the chance to, but felt it would be pointless when the girl is not already showing signs of being attracted to me...but I guess that's the wrong mentality, so I'm going to just make an effort anyway.

Goals: To start dating 1 girl.

Yes, I am setting my goal very low. Because I doubt I could even reach that. It seems very out of reach to me...as pathetic as that is...I really laugh at myself for it...but I think if I can get to that then I'll up the goal to several dates, then to getting a girlfriend or something.

Deadline: Having gone nearly 4 months without any action...I'm not really putting a deadline on this.

(side note: I don't masturbate)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Charm

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Good luck. Set your goals higher, so if you fall short, you still made it further. Shoot for the moon!
 

Jackman

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Geez. Almost sounds like you moved to Boston from out of town.

Whatever the case may be, don't hold back. Be the guy you've always been even if it feels unnatural somehow in your new surroundings. It's better to be different than to be fake (trying to fit in). Always remeber that much.
 
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