My current boss has been my boss for around 9 months. She is a lot of fun and intelligent and we enjoy working together. She is 46, married to a rich guy and has two kids. I am a few years younger.
Three months ago she texted me on a weekend and we started some innocent flirting. I used a bit of prizability and co**y/funny and also some serious discussions about life. She is really interested in the same type of literature as I am. We have been texting 5-20 times a day since then always fun and interesting.
During lunch breaks we have gone to photography exhibits together and really enjoyed it.
After a work dinner we went to a bar and had a great time talking. I invited her out to play miniature golf and again we had a really fun time but I did not approach (figuring I could get fired if I misinterpreted her interest).
She invited me out for dinner the next week and during the dinner we kissed in the restaurant.
We went out for dinner again the following week and again kissed in the restaurant. She was worried someone should see her but I had reserved a semiprivate table so things went well. I went to the bathroom as we were leaving and she came in and we made out and I touched her all over but then we left.
All along we acted normal at work even though we have a great time together.
As she is very worried someone might spot her I asked her out last Tuesday and took her to a hotel room figuring I would have sex with her in privacy. Big mistake. I could tell she was not at all ready for this, got nervous and asked me what I wanted to do. I told her I just wanted somewhere we could be alone and not to worry about other people.
She then told me she had a really bad conciense to her husband and that she loves her husband very much but that she also has very strong feelings about me and she loves it when I touch and kiss her. We kissed in the hotel room and I tried escalating but failed. She left and afterwards she told me that she was sad I would not want to see her again now that she made it clear she would not cheat.
We are both on vacation now so we will not see each other in 10 days. I said that I think it is best if we have no contact during the vacation so we can think about what we really want.
What should I do next? I am afraid I will end up in the friend zone. I want to spend my life with her I am not looking for just sex.
Three months ago she texted me on a weekend and we started some innocent flirting. I used a bit of prizability and co**y/funny and also some serious discussions about life. She is really interested in the same type of literature as I am. We have been texting 5-20 times a day since then always fun and interesting.
During lunch breaks we have gone to photography exhibits together and really enjoyed it.
After a work dinner we went to a bar and had a great time talking. I invited her out to play miniature golf and again we had a really fun time but I did not approach (figuring I could get fired if I misinterpreted her interest).
She invited me out for dinner the next week and during the dinner we kissed in the restaurant.
We went out for dinner again the following week and again kissed in the restaurant. She was worried someone should see her but I had reserved a semiprivate table so things went well. I went to the bathroom as we were leaving and she came in and we made out and I touched her all over but then we left.
All along we acted normal at work even though we have a great time together.
As she is very worried someone might spot her I asked her out last Tuesday and took her to a hotel room figuring I would have sex with her in privacy. Big mistake. I could tell she was not at all ready for this, got nervous and asked me what I wanted to do. I told her I just wanted somewhere we could be alone and not to worry about other people.
She then told me she had a really bad conciense to her husband and that she loves her husband very much but that she also has very strong feelings about me and she loves it when I touch and kiss her. We kissed in the hotel room and I tried escalating but failed. She left and afterwards she told me that she was sad I would not want to see her again now that she made it clear she would not cheat.
We are both on vacation now so we will not see each other in 10 days. I said that I think it is best if we have no contact during the vacation so we can think about what we really want.
What should I do next? I am afraid I will end up in the friend zone. I want to spend my life with her I am not looking for just sex.
