There is this girl who was my girlfriend 6 months ago. We broke up, and I have decided I am not ready for a girlfriend. However, a couple of days a go we agreed to have sex this weekend. She would also, invite some girls to join. However, for some reason she had the thought we would get back together as girlfriend/boyfriend. I didn't know that is what she thought. So she is not sure if she what she wants to do. What should I do?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Umm, she's inviting you to have a orgy with her and some other girls and your worried that she wants to be your girlfriend? gtfocrossboss said:
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just be honest and don't be a needly little dude.
'Look, I'd love to hang out with you again, but I'm not ready for another relationship with you at this time.'
will you possibly miss out on an orgy? Maybe, but improve your game and someday you wouldnt be needing her around to make an orgy happen.
Moral of the story, man up, and don't break your principles for anyone, not even her.
'Look, I'd love to hang out with you again, but I'm not ready for another relationship with you at this time.'
will you possibly miss out on an orgy? Maybe, but improve your game and someday you wouldnt be needing her around to make an orgy happen.
Moral of the story, man up, and don't break your principles for anyone, not even her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.