"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Getting into the the boyfriend/girlfriend stage after the first date

RaMar

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Alright, there has been this girl that I have been going after for quite sometime and I finally got her to go out on a date with me last night. I'd tried a few times previously but something always came up for her and she always had to cancel. Anyways the date went well and I worked up the nerve to take her hand 2/3 of the way through and movie and didn't let go :-D until the end of the movie.

The problem is that I hardly ever see her at school much less talk to her. I meet her last school year and we have keep in touch over AIM, a few quick chats at school, and more recently a few phone calls.

So now I want to continue the relationship and get on that second date asap. I'm going to call her up tonight. But what I was wondering is how long do it take before she starts acknologing me as her boyfriend? I know it's different for each person but what would you say would be the crossing point? Making out for the first time?



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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She'll bring up the conversation about being in an exclusive relationship. But... she might not, some many girls I know in high school might not. I personally wouldn't bring it up.
 

RaMar

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Originally posted by crunchtime
She'll bring up the conversation about being in an exclusive relationship. But... she might not, some many girls I know in high school might not. I personally wouldn't bring it up.
Personally, I've never heard of a high school girl I know do that. I will just wait it out and hopefully everything will fall into place a couple dates from now.
 

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Originally posted by RaMar
Personally, I've never heard of a high school girl I know do that.
Do what? My current g/f asked me about "us" after I had sex with her. Although that was kind of expected...
 

RaMar

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Originally posted by crunchtime
Do what? My current g/f asked me about "us" after I had sex with her. Although that was kind of expected...
sex is a long way away for me. And I'd hope that after f***ing her she would consider you to be her boyfriend, unless maybe if it was a one night stand kind of thing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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THA REALNESS

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WHAT A B!TCH!:mad: First date and you already wann get locked up?
 

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Originally posted by THA REALNESS
WHAT A B!TCH!:mad: First date and you already wann get locked up?
yeah, I'm pretty sure I do. At least to the girlfriend-boyfriend status.
 

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Realness, its not like he's getting married. BF/GF is a little overblown in high school, if stuff doesn't work out then ohwell, you break up.
 

RaMar

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Originally posted by Escalade
Realness, its not like he's getting married. BF/GF is a little overblown in high school, if stuff doesn't work out then ohwell, you break up.
Exactly
 
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