"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting in trouble at the club

david90

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Have you ever gotten in trouble at the club for approaching a girl with a BF? I went to a club last night and it was a sausage fest. Most girls have a guy next to her.

I don't really want any trouble because I feel that getting into a conflict over a girl is just not worth it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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everywomanshero

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david90 said:
Have you ever gotten in trouble at the club for approaching a girl with a BF? I went to a club last night and it was a sausage fest. Most girls have a guy next to her.

I don't really want any trouble because I feel that getting into a conflict over a girl is just not worth it.
This is just an excuse... if the guy gets mad big deal..... there are huge bouncers at any good club to protect you. and that will probably never be needed anyway.
 

Oxide

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How do you know it's her BF and not some chump friend that tagged along?

That's right. you don't. So go and find out.
 

LA_Chico

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id be like "yo BF, get another girl bro!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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david90

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Do you guys ever get into a conflict when approach in general due to a BF? I'm not talking about clubs anymore, i'm talking about in public.
 

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A typical scenario even if I go in and I don't engage the guys first is one might try to get rid of me and by then the group is already engagged and will ignore him ...sometimes his own girl will even scold him for it.

Other times when it's just one guy sometimes they will come up and make a weird face or something because the girls often get away from the guys for a few minutes so there is a better chance of getting approached. Don;t eject when the guys come up. The bouncers are paid to protect you even if something did go down and 99 times out of 100 times it won't.

If you are really worried then lear more on the side of just fun conversation than something that will really fly into the radar of triggering the guy's anxiety for a few days until you get used to the situation. Don't even try to flirt, just go in and have a fun (not too logical or situational) conversation. Try that 20 times. Then do whatever it is you really want to do.

It's the same in malls, you will be sarging a girl and then some guy appears out of nowhere. Hell it's better to approach with him already there than to have him pop out of the shadows anyway ha ha

Dave your location isn't listed. Maybe finding a local wing is a good idea too for someone else to demonstrate it's OK for you.
 
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