Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Getting in trouble at the club

david90

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Have you ever gotten in trouble at the club for approaching a girl with a BF? I went to a club last night and it was a sausage fest. Most girls have a guy next to her.

I don't really want any trouble because I feel that getting into a conflict over a girl is just not worth it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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everywomanshero

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david90 said:
Have you ever gotten in trouble at the club for approaching a girl with a BF? I went to a club last night and it was a sausage fest. Most girls have a guy next to her.

I don't really want any trouble because I feel that getting into a conflict over a girl is just not worth it.
This is just an excuse... if the guy gets mad big deal..... there are huge bouncers at any good club to protect you. and that will probably never be needed anyway.
 

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How do you know it's her BF and not some chump friend that tagged along?

That's right. you don't. So go and find out.
 

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id be like "yo BF, get another girl bro!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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david90

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Do you guys ever get into a conflict when approach in general due to a BF? I'm not talking about clubs anymore, i'm talking about in public.
 

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A typical scenario even if I go in and I don't engage the guys first is one might try to get rid of me and by then the group is already engagged and will ignore him ...sometimes his own girl will even scold him for it.

Other times when it's just one guy sometimes they will come up and make a weird face or something because the girls often get away from the guys for a few minutes so there is a better chance of getting approached. Don;t eject when the guys come up. The bouncers are paid to protect you even if something did go down and 99 times out of 100 times it won't.

If you are really worried then lear more on the side of just fun conversation than something that will really fly into the radar of triggering the guy's anxiety for a few days until you get used to the situation. Don't even try to flirt, just go in and have a fun (not too logical or situational) conversation. Try that 20 times. Then do whatever it is you really want to do.

It's the same in malls, you will be sarging a girl and then some guy appears out of nowhere. Hell it's better to approach with him already there than to have him pop out of the shadows anyway ha ha

Dave your location isn't listed. Maybe finding a local wing is a good idea too for someone else to demonstrate it's OK for you.
 
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