"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting Farther

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Since many of you guys are in/ have been in high school I hope you will get what I say.
First a little story to set this up: I was at a girl's house and were in her backyard (basically hiding from her parents) making out. The problem was that I could tell we were both ready to go farther. But, her dad kept coming outside to check on us. I am wondering how you find space to get away from the girl's/ your parents (whichever house you are at) so you have the privacy needed to go farther.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Park...blanket...Parents are home all the time. When theyre not then let it begin.
 

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I agree with Oakraiderz, occasionally the parent will leave the house, then my friend it is time to move farther.

Or if you have very much balls, just go upstairs with her even when her parents are at home and close the door, not many parents dare to open that door:crackup: .(make sure though to make some noise)
 

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I guess I will have to wait for the parents to leave then, because if I go anywhere near even the second floor (where the bedrooms are) her dad flips out!
 

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Don't think bad of her father, he just want to protect his little princess.:box:
You could also take her to your house if your parents are more chilled about it. Just make sure her dad don't start to chase you with his hunting rifle:trouble: .

Greetz from Holland
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No, I totally get why he does what he does... but it makes it harder on me. He is actually pretty cool. I would try to get her to come over to my house, but my parents aren't usually home... which would be good except I can't drive (only have permit).
 

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Hmmm, try to connect going farther with a romantic date at your place when your parents aren't home. You could let her take a cab if she lives far from you, if not use a the bicycle, or don't you Americans use those much?
In Holland we use them very much to travel far because we are not allowed to drive until we are 18.

What do you think about this?
 

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It would be hard...
1) If my parents aren't home, they don't want anyone to be over (especially girls) I guess I could wait until they go out, but;
2) Her parents would make sure that my parents were home...
AHHHHHHH parents make this so difficult

Actually, a lot of Americans don't use bikes very much, especially the kids, who get their parents to drive them to a friends house that is like 1 mile away. It is ridiculous.
 

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Damn, that is really bad ****. Well I start to run out of ideas. Rent a motel room?:confused: How old are the both of you anyway? Really, at his point I'm out of good advice.
A master Don Juan would probably say that you should move on to the next one because this one ain't worth the trouble. You should ask yourself how much she really means to you.

Do you Americans really bike that little? Sometimes we ride across the whole city on our bicycles, there is not enough room in the city for every student to have a car, so they use the bicycle instead, and it is way more cheaper:up: .

But how much does this girl really means to you?
 

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We are both 15. I like being with her and all, so when the chance arises, I will be sure not to miss it.
With some of these kids it is really bad how little they bike (and we wonder why all Americans are fat...) or get any exercise at all.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok, just don't stay too long in this state, or you'll go blind. If nothing happens it's time to move on.

Yeah sometimes I see these programs about fat kids in America, really bad.

Greetz from Holland:up:
 
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