"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Getting Farther

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Since many of you guys are in/ have been in high school I hope you will get what I say.
First a little story to set this up: I was at a girl's house and were in her backyard (basically hiding from her parents) making out. The problem was that I could tell we were both ready to go farther. But, her dad kept coming outside to check on us. I am wondering how you find space to get away from the girl's/ your parents (whichever house you are at) so you have the privacy needed to go farther.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Park...blanket...Parents are home all the time. When theyre not then let it begin.
 

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I agree with Oakraiderz, occasionally the parent will leave the house, then my friend it is time to move farther.

Or if you have very much balls, just go upstairs with her even when her parents are at home and close the door, not many parents dare to open that door:crackup: .(make sure though to make some noise)
 

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I guess I will have to wait for the parents to leave then, because if I go anywhere near even the second floor (where the bedrooms are) her dad flips out!
 

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Don't think bad of her father, he just want to protect his little princess.:box:
You could also take her to your house if your parents are more chilled about it. Just make sure her dad don't start to chase you with his hunting rifle:trouble: .

Greetz from Holland
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No, I totally get why he does what he does... but it makes it harder on me. He is actually pretty cool. I would try to get her to come over to my house, but my parents aren't usually home... which would be good except I can't drive (only have permit).
 

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Hmmm, try to connect going farther with a romantic date at your place when your parents aren't home. You could let her take a cab if she lives far from you, if not use a the bicycle, or don't you Americans use those much?
In Holland we use them very much to travel far because we are not allowed to drive until we are 18.

What do you think about this?
 

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It would be hard...
1) If my parents aren't home, they don't want anyone to be over (especially girls) I guess I could wait until they go out, but;
2) Her parents would make sure that my parents were home...
AHHHHHHH parents make this so difficult

Actually, a lot of Americans don't use bikes very much, especially the kids, who get their parents to drive them to a friends house that is like 1 mile away. It is ridiculous.
 

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Damn, that is really bad ****. Well I start to run out of ideas. Rent a motel room?:confused: How old are the both of you anyway? Really, at his point I'm out of good advice.
A master Don Juan would probably say that you should move on to the next one because this one ain't worth the trouble. You should ask yourself how much she really means to you.

Do you Americans really bike that little? Sometimes we ride across the whole city on our bicycles, there is not enough room in the city for every student to have a car, so they use the bicycle instead, and it is way more cheaper:up: .

But how much does this girl really means to you?
 

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We are both 15. I like being with her and all, so when the chance arises, I will be sure not to miss it.
With some of these kids it is really bad how little they bike (and we wonder why all Americans are fat...) or get any exercise at all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, just don't stay too long in this state, or you'll go blind. If nothing happens it's time to move on.

Yeah sometimes I see these programs about fat kids in America, really bad.

Greetz from Holland:up:
 
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