This may be a dumb question, and I may get ripped for asking it, but I really need to know, so I'll go ahead with it. If you want to ask a chick for her number and imply that you are interested in getting to know her, what's the best way to go about doing it? I mean, what would be a good thing to say?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Getting # and Implying Interest
- Thread starter Ian19
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MrBond_Age
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 1, 2004
- Messages
- 165
- Reaction score
- 0
"Give me your number".
She knows you are interested in her.
She knows you are interested in her.
MrBond_Age
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 1, 2004
- Messages
- 165
- Reaction score
- 0
If he asks it by email he will lose it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MrBond_Age
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 1, 2004
- Messages
- 165
- Reaction score
- 0
Both. It IS the BASICS.
!!!COME ON PEOPLE!!!
Ill have my own complete yet simple guide online by next week. I want to get all the BS out of the picture and kep the BASICS.
!!!COME ON PEOPLE!!!
Ill have my own complete yet simple guide online by next week. I want to get all the BS out of the picture and kep the BASICS.
I understand the whole e-mail thing, getting her number that way and all, but I see her enough each week to where I could ask her face to face. I'm a real pus and I'm trying to change that, so I really feel this overwhelming need to ask her in person.
Anyway, I was looking for like ways to say what I need to say, you know like, I thought about something like: "I'd really like to get to know you, can I call you sometime?"
Yet I figured I should get the opinions of you guys here just so I don't go off saying something stupid that makes me look like the thing I'm trying not to be: a P---y.
Anyway, I was looking for like ways to say what I need to say, you know like, I thought about something like: "I'd really like to get to know you, can I call you sometime?"
Yet I figured I should get the opinions of you guys here just so I don't go off saying something stupid that makes me look like the thing I'm trying not to be: a P---y.
MrBond_Age
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 1, 2004
- Messages
- 165
- Reaction score
- 0
Mistake number 2: Never ask something like a question.
Tell her to do it. She will be less inclined to refuse.
Tell her to do it. She will be less inclined to refuse.
Unforsaken
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 4, 2004
- Messages
- 91
- Reaction score
- 0
- Age
- 41
Dunno, but it sure make it easier for her to reject you.
I would say just ask for her number (if she give it to you then she interested and ask her out through the phone or in person. If she not, then move on). Also make a mental note from now on ask for their #, if they are interested in you they will give it and if she not, then you just saved yourself time.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MrBond_Age
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 1, 2004
- Messages
- 165
- Reaction score
- 0
All your problems comes from this.
You ask for her number. You don't explain why. She knows why you are asking. If she asks why you want it, she's trying to avoid giving it to you.
If you tell her you want to "get to know her" you will look lame and put some pressure on her, reducing your chances.
You can ask for the e-mail after she has given you her number, but don't ever bother using it.
If you see her all the time you can ask her out in person. You will avoid the hassle of missed calls, answering machines and messages. Simply suggest a date, time and activity. Let her say yes or no. If it's not a yes or counter-offer, it means no.
Don't put obstacles in your way. If you see her in person you don't need to mess about with phone/e-mail. After she accepts your date
however you can exchange numbers (you may have to cancel/reschedule/who knows).
But why let her have YOUR number? For one thing, if she doesn't have it she has an excuse if she flakes without bothering to call.
If you tell her you want to "get to know her" you will look lame and put some pressure on her, reducing your chances.
You can ask for the e-mail after she has given you her number, but don't ever bother using it.
If you see her all the time you can ask her out in person. You will avoid the hassle of missed calls, answering machines and messages. Simply suggest a date, time and activity. Let her say yes or no. If it's not a yes or counter-offer, it means no.
Don't put obstacles in your way. If you see her in person you don't need to mess about with phone/e-mail. After she accepts your date
however you can exchange numbers (you may have to cancel/reschedule/who knows). But why let her have YOUR number? For one thing, if she doesn't have it she has an excuse if she flakes without bothering to call.
Talk to her a bit and pull this one...
"Here, write down your number."
When it's a command, it flows a lot more smoothly than asking if you can have the number, then asking for the number, and then having her write it down. Go simple. If she rejects, then it just isn't meant to be.
"Here, write down your number."
When it's a command, it flows a lot more smoothly than asking if you can have the number, then asking for the number, and then having her write it down. Go simple. If she rejects, then it just isn't meant to be.
Hollowpoint
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 28, 2004
- Messages
- 593
- Reaction score
- 0
Exactly.
Or 'give me your number'
Or 'give me your number'