"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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getting a second chance...need advice

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Alright a girl i was briefly seeing this year wants to meet for coffee this week and I ****ed things up between us and she sent me an e-mail saying that she was rather dissapointed as she was into me and there was a lot of chemistry and passion between us you know...so yeah I just want some advice as too how I should play this?, just be cool and see what happens, because the first date we ever had she invited back for a 'wee drink' and you know that means right?...:crackup:

I like this girl but see this was way back when I was interested in the room mate and sort of kept her at arms length.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she wants us to end
cause i f*cked her friend (almost)
she gave me one more chance
and i f*cked her again (try!)

-jay z.
 
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Guess this depends on what happened the first time around...
 
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Hmmm... I think more information is needed. How exactly did you mess things up? What's the story behind this roommate? etc... etc...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wait, she TOLD you she was dissapointed? What?
 
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She wants you back because she discovered you can live without her.

This is your choice. Personally, I wouldn't give any woman a second chance since the problems will most likely repeat themselves.
 
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:down: That was a waste of my ****ing time...she was cold and angry and it was awkward so I made up a lie and cut the coffee meeting short, she snapped at me about something (I forget what it was now but I just thought) **** this I'm out of here.

Why exactly did she want to see me again...meh who cares.
 
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