"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting a groups interest without bragging?

ElStud

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Alright so I'm on the bus and there's this group of kids sitting around me. So I'm back here making all these sexual jokes and bragging like I'm not a virgin and I completely had the groups interest. But I think they can also sense that I'm not being 100% true to myself since I actually AM a virgin. My jokes mainly consisted of sexual jokes and turning non-sexual things into sexual things. One guy even said "You should be a comedian man. One good thing I did do was I displayed higher value, but is there anyway to do this without bragging? I wonder. But most of my humor though is in being ****y and talking crap and I want to stop that because with those things I'm not being 100% true to myself. I don't want to fall into that trap where everybody finds out I can't back up my crap. So yeah, anybody got any tips of gaining the interests of a group without bragging?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jamesbell953

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It sounds like you were trying too hard to impress them, instead of actually demonstrating higher value.

Even by trying to hard to make a group of girls (or girls & guys) laugh, you are supplicating. By being overly jokey you're entertaining them rather than doing normal DHV stuff.

It's not a matter of you bragging - from what you've said you weren't really bragging at all, but just being funny. I mean, don't get me wrong, it CAN be entertaining, but it's NOT what will attract girls.
 

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Not DHVing is a DHV in and of itself.
 

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Roulette said:
Not DHVing is a DHV in and of itself.
QFT...... If you actually believe you have HV, then you're less apt to overtly try to display it. Thus, you come across as more natural, and not so contrived.
 
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