"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have a bad case of oneitis right now. I literally cannot stop thinking about this one girl, even though she has no interest in me. Unless I am 100% occupied or concentrated on something, my thoughts drift to her. I wish I could just turn this sh*t off like a lightswitch. All the DJ stuff I have read during the years has not stopped this oneitis crap from creeping in! I guess like David DeAngelo says, attraction is not a choice. When you are truly attracted to someone, it's damn near impossible to control your feelings. I had decided to cut her out of my life, but I ended up at the beach with her and some other friends recently. When I saw her body in a bikini, I was just stupified, she has what I consider to perfect body. I couldn't even stand to f*cking look at her, it was damn near painful. I'm trying to remind myself that there 3 billion women out there, but it just doesn't help. Damn I'm becoming a wussbag....:(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I know it's not much help, but take solace in the fact that most of us have been in your shoes at one point. Totally sucks.
 
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Get your mind addicted to something or even someone else. Take up a new hobby. Go to the gym. Read... anything, try to improve yourself in all aspects possible. Just stay active and go out and make some friends :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This might sound crazy but this little video worked for me in getting a oneitis girl off of my mind.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vaOhCZgwuE

It's based on NLP and re-framing. Imagine your feelings toward her on the ball, and see if they diminish after watching the video. If you have oneitis really bad then do it several times over two or three days.

Let me know if it works for you.
 
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Find something to occupie your time, I used my car for instance wash wax rese, I also use music, I love finding new music. Hobbies will always help you remove your mind from a girl it works for me.
 
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speakeasy said:
I have a bad case of oneitis right now. I literally cannot stop thinking about this one girl, even though she has no interest in me. Unless I am 100% occupied or concentrated on something, my thoughts drift to her. I wish I could just turn this sh*t off like a lightswitch. All the DJ stuff I have read during the years has not stopped this oneitis crap from creeping in! I guess like David DeAngelo says, attraction is not a choice. When you are truly attracted to someone, it's damn near impossible to control your feelings. I had decided to cut her out of my life, but I ended up at the beach with her and some other friends recently. When I saw her body in a bikini, I was just stupified, she has what I consider to perfect body. I couldn't even stand to f*cking look at her, it was damn near painful. I'm trying to remind myself that there 3 billion women out there, but it just doesn't help. Damn I'm becoming a wussbag....:(
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Do something you consider challenging and worthwhile. Nine billion neurons, I'm sure you can come up with something else to occupy your thoughts.
 
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a recurring vision of something you once had is probably what made things worse for you.. like everyone else just said, take a look around, do something creative, focus your mind on other things, think of all the other beautiful women you are able to meet in your life time
 
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I know what you're going through. And when you get like this, the easiest thing to do is to just sit around and brood, all that crap going through your mind.

My thing is writing music. When I start thinking too much, or worrying, just the act of sitting at my keyboard, and recording some music, in a few minutes takes my mind off of the girl and puts it on something I love, and am passionate about.

I'm sure you do something to relax yourself, that has nothing to do with chicks. Just immerse yourself out of that.

You can't think yourself out of something, you have to physically do something that forces your mind to concentrate on the task at hand.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You said she has no interest in you so **** her. And I bet your overrating her looks just like how I did when I had oneitis. Post a picture of her I bet shes not even that hot. I realized that theres so many hot girls out there that theres no point in worrying about one. Has this girl won miss universe before or been in playboy? no shes just some regular ***** that doesnt even like you.
 
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rjones said:
You said she has no interest in you so **** her. And I bet your overrating her looks just like how I did when I had oneitis. Post a picture of her I bet shes not even that hot. I realized that theres so many hot girls out there that theres no point in worrying about one. Has this girl won miss universe before or been in playboy? no shes just some regular ***** that doesnt even like you.
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I know what you mean. I had a oneitis several years ago. I recently found her profile on myspace and I was like, WTF?!?! I actually liked this girl THAT much?!? It's kinda funny how being mentally infatuated with a girl makes her looks so much better then she may actually be. It's almost like the beer-goggles thing, but naturally induced.
 
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speakeasy said:
I know what you mean. I had a oneitis several years ago. I recently found her profile on myspace and I was like, WTF?!?! I actually liked this girl THAT much?!? It's kinda funny how being mentally infatuated with a girl makes her looks so much better then she may actually be. It's almost like the beer-goggles thing, but naturally induced.
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lol me too man...found a pic of a former oneitis and I was like "meh..,just another average lookin girl." Why did I get so worked up over her before...damn.
 
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