Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gettin with someone at a party

Westwind

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Ok i was at a party realky hammered but i was afraid to approach a really hot chick because she was with a crowd. I kept trying to get my friends to come with me but they wouldn't, so i got scared.


How do you get over that fear and make a move?

Please give me some tips, i really need them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Westwind

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The Sperminator said:
You were hammered but still afraid. Damn nothing to help you then.

I would have to disagree with you, i can be helped. But only by myself. I have to get more comfortable around women, dancing ,and groups of women. It's never too late.
 

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She wasn't alone? In a set. You'd need to open the set or else catch her alone.
 

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Pay attention to the other chicks first. Make them laugh. Puts her at ease as she is off the hot seat. Make it clear later on she is the one you are interested in with eye contact. She'll get the message.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rex Man

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I'd suggest waiting till she was alone to reduce the # of factors. Your game could be top-notch but one girl could completely throw a monkey wrench in your program. If you MUST,MUST,MUST approach a group, get a decent wingman. Tell your friend to stop being a bunch of pvssies, it's 2007 and that's not acceptable. :nono:
 

Play the Game

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Too bad you can't just club her and take her back to your cave, like in the good ol' days. :trouble:

Life was so simple back then.
 

Westwind

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Thanks that stuff is helpful except the last one , that's funny.
 

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Two main pieces of advice for you:

1) Desensitization therapy -- You have to expose yourself to anxiety in order to reduce it. Just go for it!
2) Your mindset is probably in error. You're still trying to please the woman instead of just having fun and being a man. In reality, you don't know anything about this girl yet. She could be a b1tch or a total hor; would you still worship her even then? Just go get to know her, be direct, and don't wuss around or let yourself get used.

And remember, everyone makes mistakes! You're still learning, and perfect is boring anyway.
 
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