A girl from my company but works in a different office told some other people she thinks I'm gay after I went out with her. I should forget her but I need to prove I'm not. anybody have any idea how I should procede. She won't return my calls.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Bartender
Senior Don Juan
Did you find out why they think you're gay? Is she spreading rumors or did you act gay?
MindOverMatter
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It's been said a million times, don't date women at work, don't sh!t where you eat, but you people don't listen. You're lucky she only said you were gay, she could have easily accused you of sexual harassment and gotten you fired, when will you people learn.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
if this is the case then she probably told a freind of hers tongue in cheek that she thinks you are gay, so basicly joking, and her freind probalby started the rumour.
It could be all kinds of reasons even a test to see how you react to being under fire
It could be all kinds of reasons even a test to see how you react to being under fire
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
Yea dood you're GAY! haha..jk bro
Looks like what happened is that you must have missed ALL of her buying signals so she thinks you're a chump now.
With people nowdays, gay doesnt necessarily mean she thinks you're homosexual. Her calling you gay helps keep her on her pedistal.
"I gave him all the buying signals and he didnt even try to kiss me..he MUST BE GAY"
YEa...I'm with MIND OVER MATTER...don't dip your pen in the company ink.