"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gave gf $100 so she can buy groceries

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thank you!!

I was afraid i was over reacting cuz we been sharing everything for a while. But it did fvck up my weekend plan.
So i walked out when it happened. Deleted calls and texts.
Its not really about $$$ but its not even a good friendship move.
Will miss the tyght cooch tho. Oh well.
 

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So let me get this straight.
You broke up with your girlfriend because of 25 dollars misunderstanding? After walking out like a wuss instead of confronting and dealing with the situation?
If this is the only reason for the breakup, you have bigger problems than being 25 dolars short.
 

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OP, you need to put your b!tch in check. Next time, never give the b!tch cash. If you expect to get anything back close to what you are thinking, you're in for a rude awakening.
 

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So let me get this straight.
You broke up with your girlfriend because of 25 dollars misunderstanding? After walking out like a wuss instead of confronting and dealing with the situation?
If this is the only reason for the breakup, you have bigger problems than being 25 dolars short.
Seems to me, more to do with trust and respect than money. If she trusted and respected him, she wouldn't had stolen his dough.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It was disrespectful and goes to show that you can't trust her with your money. I wouldn't end the relationship over it but I would make it clear that it was disrespectful and not something you'll tolerate again.
 

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Yea it’s already been said. She took advantage of you, man. Because she doesn’t respect you.

You told her spend 70. She could have gotten to the checkout and seen that she was at 95, than asked the cashier to chop it down to 70. However, instead she made the choice to proceed.

Take it as a flag and know if she has done something as simple as this, she is capable of doing more, and most likely will. This is how it starts.

End it? Maybe not. Depends how many things similar to this have happened and your overall dynamic. If it is the only hiccup so far; I would put her on ice for a week, and take it from there. The tweetable here is: “respect is the life blood of any relationship”.
 

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To be honest i don't think that if you gave one of your bros $100 you could be 100% sure he would come back with exact change for you either.

Would you have brought her exactly $30 like she requested if the tables were turned OP?

If she really did mess up your weekend, tell her to fvck off for a few days/a week. And next time don't put her in an excellent position to spend extra
 

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She disrespected you. If you want to keep hitting it do so. Just no money for her and do not make her a priority. Start looking for other women.

This experience was not bad. You learned an awful lot.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's not your fault that she doesn't respect you. They don't respect anything.

Please don't spend the rest of your life doing pushups in a vain attempt to get them to respect you.

They have hamster brains. Until roughly 100 years ago, they were barely allowed to have any property or money of their own.
 

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She disrespected you. If you want to keep hitting it do so. Just no money for her and do not make her a priority. Start looking for other women.

This experience was not bad. You learned an awful lot.
Only cost ya 100 bucks.. . that's a steal as far as I'm concerned
 

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Well...no update really. But she has not reached out to me at all. So...just a case study on this scenerio.
Either its pride or arrogance. Or a complete con job on me emotionally and physically.
 

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Well...no update really. But she has not reached out to me at all. So...just a case study on this scenerio.
Either its pride or arrogance. Or a complete con job on me emotionally and physically.
How long were you seeing her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kind of reminds me of marriage in a way. If you can't afford to lose the $30, don't let someone else have access to it.
 

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Kind of reminds me of marriage in a way. If you can't afford to lose the $30, don't let someone else have access to it.
It wasn’t about the money. It was about the lack of respect.
 

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Well...no update really. But she has not reached out to me at all. So...just a case study on this scenerio.
Either its pride or arrogance. Or a complete con job on me emotionally and physically.
I'm thinking the latter, look we established she doesn't respect you, she effectively stole from you, then ghosted.

I would not give this broad another moments thought. If she reaches back out yes fine, smash and dash. Otherwise, lesson learned and meet other women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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