"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Game lost!,girls that use to like me don't now!

ryanvalmont

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Well about 7 months ago i was at the height of my game

i was ****y and sooooooooo full of myself it was amazing,i'de go clubbing and always get girls all the time.

then i went on holiday,but before i went i bragged BIGTIME i'de pull loads of girls...turns out i pulled NONE..NONE!!

Since my holiday 3 months ago now,i've gone down town clubbing every week and hardly ever get lucky anymore..

Also this girl who couldn't keep her hands off me like 5 months ago was down there friday and saturday and didn't seem too intrested in me,WHAT'S HAPPEND TO ME?.

I'm at an all time low with girls,but my confidence is still high,the only thing i can think it is is that i have a little bit of acne that might be stopping me from being my old self.

Anyone else have this happen to them before?,i just wanna get back to my old self again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crackhead

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man, if you havent lost your confidence, just don't even think about it and get some more atbats
 

ryanvalmont

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i keep making exscuses saying the club has too many girls with boyfriends and there too good for me.

Maybe i should set up some challenges for this friday and satuday night?.
 

TheNonPedant

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don't go to a club to pick up...girls often don't.
 

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None on holiday is a bad number, lol... I hope you didn't do Malia, Faliraki, Ibiza and the typical lads holiday... its harder to not pull!

As for '5 months ago' girl... that was five months ago, shes met X number of guys since then... I don't know what you got up to with her the first time round, if it was nothin then she got fed up and you missed your chance... if you did, then it was just a matter of time and she's gone on to other pastures...

Maybe you said it yourself... you used the phrase 'get lucky', maybe you were just lucky!?

And Acne is never a good thing... girls be well into their men with the designer stubble, more 'lad' and manly lookin... acne puts you back into high school zone, it may be fickle but the majority of girls are all about the clear skin... if grease and oil are troubles then some sessions on a sunbed will do wonders to dry your skin out and keep spots at bay...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ryanvalmont

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Yeah it hit's you hard when you become an afc after being at the highest you've ever been at your game.

I have no idea what i'll do about it,maybe i'll try something new this weekend....

Anybody have any ideas?.
 

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Originally posted by ryanvalmont
Yeah it hit's you hard when you become an afc after being at the highest you've ever been at your game.

I have no idea what i'll do about it,maybe i'll try something new this weekend....

Anybody have any ideas?.
I wish I knew, man. I'm kind of going through the same thing right now...for about 6 months now.

Don't get me wrong, I've got a lot of confidence in myself right now and I still get girls interested...I've got a date this friday. But at the same time, I don't have the "mojo", the drive I used to have...or the social presence for that matter.
 
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