"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Colossus

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Scenario 1:

1. Burned by girl, revelation
2. Learn stuff, get laid
3. Get laid more
4. Start a blog
5. Get weirdly political
6. Use smug ego for lulz and $$$

Scenario 2:

1. AFC
2. Anger
3. Get laid some, but not the quality/quantity you'd like
4. Blame society and women
5. Take on extremist views
6. Flame all other philosophies and never advance as a man

Scenario 3:

1. Decent with women, but not a natural
2. Learn a lot, develop whole self
3. Get laid as a result
4. Teach other bros
5. Self acceptance
6. Choose awesome woman, move on with your life


:D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Peaks&Valleys

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That's pretty accurate, good stuff.
 

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Scenario 2 is the most common. We need to change that and make Scenario 3 the most common.
 

zekko

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Good insight. Although recently on this forum, scenario 3 would get you labeled as a beta you-know-what. I have to say the atmosphere on this forum has improved 1000% since the clean up.
 

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samspade said:
What do I care what these two random women want? They're not MY wives. I only know what I want and like, and am going to choose women accordingly.
Right, it's always better to choose what you want, than to pick someone and then try to change them into what you want. That rarely works, IMO.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm probably a mixture of 1 & 3 but very interesting. I see alot of guys turning to write blogs and a whole lot of number 2 guys on here that ignore ignore and ignore self improvement methods and blame the girls, society and themselves.

Interesting thread.
 

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You don't see a lot of #3 because when they start fixing their problems, you see them around less.

Pook is in Nirvana, not b!tching online like #1 and #2. Same with dbot and a couple others, including ones that used to frequent this site but now married and left it. SoSuave is like a hospital of sorts, only sick people frequent this place, or those who were once sick and want to help others find "the cure". So really I'm not surprised if it seems we have a lot of #1 and #2.
 
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