You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
sex for rent is prostitutiondnscache said:I'll keep it simple:
1. Had a friend from back in high school (21 now) who I reconnected with. I was no idiot this time around and went in for it quick, making out *heavy* right off the bat the first night we hung out again. Well, long story short, her living situation was ****ty and 2 rooms opened up in my house. I offhandedly offered a temp place while she looks for a better situation. She took me up on the offer (after much assurance that it "wouldn't be a bother").
2. We haven't had sex - yet. Each night ends up with her in my bed making out hard for a long time.
So, where do I take this? My goal is actually LTR. I was infatuated with this one in HS for the longest time, stopped talking for years, and now it's back and right where I want it to be. But, it's a weird situation. Maybe she just wants to fool around (and eventually go further?).
Advice is appreciated on how to handle this one.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yea, It's increased the time of you guys screwing around because it is still fairly new. Seeing eachother everyday will get old quick and will start to become awkward after some time.dnscache said:@Pierce: Yeah you're probably right. I mean, it has only increased the amount of fooling around for the time being, but I see where that could f*ck things up down the road. So I'm looking for advice on how to hit a homerun on this one.
She knows I'm severely wanted by multiple others - I had a girl staying with me for a week from out-of-town when we first started hanging out. Just broke up with an LTR a couple months ago and the mention of her gets this girl kind of riled up - it's funny.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.