Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sex for rent is prostitutiondnscache said:I'll keep it simple:
1. Had a friend from back in high school (21 now) who I reconnected with. I was no idiot this time around and went in for it quick, making out *heavy* right off the bat the first night we hung out again. Well, long story short, her living situation was ****ty and 2 rooms opened up in my house. I offhandedly offered a temp place while she looks for a better situation. She took me up on the offer (after much assurance that it "wouldn't be a bother").
2. We haven't had sex - yet. Each night ends up with her in my bed making out hard for a long time.
So, where do I take this? My goal is actually LTR. I was infatuated with this one in HS for the longest time, stopped talking for years, and now it's back and right where I want it to be. But, it's a weird situation. Maybe she just wants to fool around (and eventually go further?).
Advice is appreciated on how to handle this one.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yea, It's increased the time of you guys screwing around because it is still fairly new. Seeing eachother everyday will get old quick and will start to become awkward after some time.dnscache said:@Pierce: Yeah you're probably right. I mean, it has only increased the amount of fooling around for the time being, but I see where that could f*ck things up down the road. So I'm looking for advice on how to hit a homerun on this one.
She knows I'm severely wanted by multiple others - I had a girl staying with me for a week from out-of-town when we first started hanging out. Just broke up with an LTR a couple months ago and the mention of her gets this girl kind of riled up - it's funny.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.