"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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FWB changed up our banging schedule because of of a new date

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I have been banging this chick every Friday night for the last six weeks. I guess you can consider it a fwb situation. She always stays over and leaves in the morning. Easy going girl. sex is great.

Today I found out one of my guy friends matched with her very slutty new account on tinder, he didnt know I was banging her. He told me that they were chatting up for a bit and set up a date for this Friday night. He is a good friend so he is going to cancel the date.

This bish didnt accept my Friday night bang because she had a date,she countered with Thursday night. Obviously her interest is lowering. I am thinking of just telling her I am busy Thursday night (which I am, have another date setup with some new girl) and telling her i will hit her up next week?.How to go about keeping her interest high.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You’re busy Thurs. don't tell her anything else for awhile. That ‘awhile’ time frame is up to you. I would personally make it at least 8 days…
Reignite interest.
 

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Logically, you have to realize that FWB situations are never short term. One person wants more, the other wants to keep things the same. She is realizing that, and is putting herself out there to test the waters and see if there are options that will work better long term.

1.) Do you know if she is sleeping with anyone else?
2.) Is this a chick that you would like more with or just into her for the sex?
 

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Her interest might be lowering or not, but this girl has just slipped you into 2nd place priority because she probably sees this guy as a more stable and long term dating opportunity.

A chick that bangs you every Friday night and doesn't make advances to get your feet into a relationship doesn't see you as relationship material. You're good for sex, in her eyes. Deal with it and keep banging her whenever you're up for and whenever she's up for it if that's what you want, but don't become bitter. You would do the same thing if an opportunity presented itself for you to have a girlfriend.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Update:

I told her Thursday night didn't work for me, no worries. She texted me back right away to let her know when I am free because these next few days is a bit tight for her. She is flying out next Thursday for a trip. I didn't respond. Surprise surprise, she texted me two hours later telling me her Friday night plans with her gf got canceled and if I was still free to get together. The right thing would be to tell her I made other plans because I am a guy with options. I dont have actual plans on friday night lol. I was going to respond with "See you Wednesday of next week to smash"
 

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Update:

I told her Thursday night didn't work for me, no worries. She texted me back right away to let her know when I am free because these next few days is a bit tight for her. She is flying out next Thursday for a trip. I didn't respond. Surprise surprise, she texted me two hours later telling me her Friday night plans with her gf got canceled and if I was still free to get together. The right thing would be to tell her I made other plans because I am a guy with options. I dont have actual plans on friday night lol. I was going to respond with "See you Wednesday of next week to smash"
But you don't have options. Tell her to bring a friend and either smash them both or let the homie reparation smash for being stingy and thinking you can lock these hoes down.
 

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Let the homie smash and get her friends number
 

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You did enough just rail her out...no need for the secondary game playing. She is a FWB, these games dont need to be played.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In FWB I don't see how anyone owes anyone time or explanations, things that would be expected in a relationship. I kind of thought that was the point.

Clearly, this girl is interested in and actually meeting other men and you are not her priority, but why would you be anyway if you are not her boyfriend.

You should not make her a priority either, but your reaction to her actions and your game is doing just that. If you had other girls to be with you probably would not care about this and just go with the flow. So meet other girls but expect that any girl that you desingate as plate status is probably desginating you in the same way and is meeting other guys.

If you can be okay with that you can have some fun.
 

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You did enough just rail her out...no need for the secondary game playing. She is a FWB, these games dont need to be played.
I have to respectfully disagree that there is no need for secondary game playing when it comes to a fwb. Women need to be gamed at all times. You need to constantly keep her coming back for more because before you know it she is out banging three new dudes and your fwb have been revoked. They are always looking to get the upper hand in every situation.

Anway, I told her I was busy on Friday and she started blowing up my phone all weekend, which she never does and do you know why, because I blew her off Friday night and had her thinking I am a man with options. Told her I would see her in my bed on Tuesday night at 10.
 

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No it's because you begged your friend not to smash. How long before she finds a guy you don't know?
 

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Tell her you’re busy thurs but still free Fri night for a good long after club bang.. when she comes over late that night (bc ur friend canceled) feel free to bring up her going out on a date with him if you like..​

Make sure u spin plates.. don’t get upset with women over stuff like this but you gotta firmly but subtly bring it up so they clearly understand you know exactly what they’re up to.. so they can’t bs you about it later on.
@bradd80 - how would this play out? Bring it up by saying: if you plan on smashing another guy you're supposed to tell me? OR you're a lier, don't lie to me again? Im not sure how you can maintain frame after bringing this up.
 
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