I_have_BDE
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Ha!! Except these days by old standards she isnt considered fat lol!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Fun posting ridiculous OLD profile screenshots
- Thread starter Pierce Manhammer
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pierce Manhammer
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BillyPilgrim
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At least she's not looking for marriage
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The reason I posted it is that if a man posted the same profile her would be reported and banned. Any mention whatsoever about sex - and 2-3 women report you and you’re done.
We hear it all the time. At this point OLD is something I passively scroll through while dropping a deuce. I agree with most posters when they say it’s pretty much a waste of time.
Once or twice a year I make a connection that comes to fruition, the ROI is not there for most men.
We hear it all the time. At this point OLD is something I passively scroll through while dropping a deuce. I agree with most posters when they say it’s pretty much a waste of time.
Once or twice a year I make a connection that comes to fruition, the ROI is not there for most men.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I_have_BDE
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Match only works half the time on my cell phone. Had an hb8 like me back and messaged me but can't even get on the damn site here at the shop to reply.
I've lost chicks on their site because its down a lot.
I've lost chicks on their site because its down a lot.
SW15
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That's an amazing mate!
That one is bat shiit crazy!
It was not there for me on any level. That's why I stopped using the swipe apps. It's a shiit show.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SW15
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People watching is overrated. Dallas has some great people watching places.
The Duke
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I've matched with this chic(in the red dress) 3 times on hinge/bumble. The first time the convo fizzled out. Second time I deleted her. Third time I asked her "what's the deal, can't find any good guys?". She told me it was hard finding a guy that wanted to have a baby. They all had kids already or didn't want any. She is 40yo, spent her good years focused on her career, and now she can't find a man to make a baby with. Lol. Stupid.
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She is good looking. If she didn't want kids, I could see a similarly aged childless guy being into her. She might be an obnoxious careerist though.
BillyPilgrim
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This is what will happen when they follow all of society's cues unthinkingly.
Pierce Manhammer
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Man Mexican blood look at those chicken drumstick legs, and the bolt ons. Her friend is more proportional.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I_have_BDE
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I've had a few like that on old. One I matched with a 3rd or 4th time. Hb 7.5 to 8. Seems to fizzle. Exchanged numbers finally but now her excuse is she's trying to find a new apartment and job.
I_have_BDE
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I think the posters name was redskins92 or something and he's banned from every single old match llc owns and bumble too I think. If match bans you I wonder if they can blanket ban you from all their sites.
Dust 2 Dust
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Baby rabies, the nuclear red flag of dating after 35.
threeforfree
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.