"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fun and different things to do with your woman

SmoothTalker

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Hey DJ's. I know there have been a bunch of date idea threads already, but I think this is a little different.

I'm sure we've all had relationships where things start out great but eventually you settle into a routine and it gets a little dull.

Lets list all of the things you can do with your woman in an LTR to keep things fun and interesting. Now preferably these are nothing to expensive, just fun and different.

I'll start out:
-hot air balloon ride
-camping
-dance lessons
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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vitor

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Road Trips
Ski Trips
Sex in Public
Take her Shooting
Putt Putt
Go look at Puppies
Try a new Restaurant
Get Drunk Together
Try new sex postions
Try new bars
Go on double dates
 

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Beyond having fun, just think of how she will tell her friends later about what you do together. She wants to impress her friends about the 'adventures' she has with her new boyfriend.

But if you have a 'dull' date according to her standards/desires, make sure it is something you want to do, even if she complains. She may communicate her disappointment to her gal pals, but it will be dramatic because you were in control and didn't take her whining.

Like one of my English teachers said: "Conflict is the essence of drama."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SmoothTalker

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Good ideas guys, keep em coming.

Yeah it's a shame about the hot air balloon rides being so much money. However, it does seem like a lot of fun and some people I know who have done it say it's a great experience. So maybe I'll try someday and let you know how that date goes.
 

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Thanks for reminding me about putt putt, my date mentioned she liked it


Thinking of other things to do

Walking a nature trail after a meal to 'walk it off'
going to u-pick blueberry farm
kareoke
picnic in the country or a park
fairs and feastivals
bowling
take a trainride (amazing how many have never done this)
rent a jet ski
drive looking at Christmas lights
a really nice coffee shop

I am always looking for affordable activities
 

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Six Flags (amusement parks)
walk somewhere
bowling

running out of things around here though
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rollerblading in the park with some passionfruit sorbet :)

Learn an instrument together. Teach her to play some game that you like like Guitar Hero. In her mind, it will mean more because you are sharing an activity that you would otherwise do yourself
 

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* Ice Skating
* Squash together
* Boat trips / canal cruises
* Play a boardgame
* Nintendo Wii
* Go to the Zoo
 

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Miniature Golf
Renaissance Faire
Swimming
Bowling
Horseshoes
Wine Tasting (If you're over 21 obviously)
Ice Cream
 

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I know MORE than one woman that LOVES going to strip clubs.... My old oneiits used to literary BEG me to take her

SWIMMING!!!!

what better date? espically first? You get the easiest excuse ever for kino. it's FREE, and you get to see her damn near naked.And you are exercising
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Amusement parks are definitely worth it for the first date. They give you and HER EMOTIONS which she will associate with you.
 
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