You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No sh!t sherlock. 1. Its common sense not to be an arrogant dousche. 2. Its being ****y/FUNNY.Originally posted by Phat
Just a lesson. That ****y technique will backfire if you over do it. I overdid it and blew my chance with this girl. I asked her later what was the problem. She was like YOUR TOO FULL OF UR SELF.
So guys keep the ****yness to a limit.
eh?Originally posted by undesputable
wow man, youve saved my life
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
bump:yes:Originally posted by Jerky Boi
****y "+" Funny
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lolOriginally posted by undesputable
wow man, youve saved my life
There is a little C/F in all of us.... perhaps you're not doing it completely right? I mean you don't just go up to some girl and imply how much of a bit-ch you think she is. The neg hit should probably be saved for later on in the convo, or if she gives you the attitude. This "game" is really a battle of attitudes.... if you come off as the dominant figure, the guy who doesn't put up with her snotty behavior, you win. But anyway, a safe method is to just establish some rapport and then if/when she resists or gives attitude you break out the C/F on her as-s. C/F isn't about being an arrogant a-hole, but rather showing her you're a sociable, playful, down-to-earth man who has his crap together. You can be as nice as you want with this, but if you do nothing else, you gotta throw in some teasing. Nobody can deny the power of that, and if you have a pretty hot chick there, she should see you as a pretty nice package. I learned a long time ago that being a serious nice guy gets you zero girls. I like to say, "Be coc-ky with words, show her your nice side with your actions." Just do what you gotta do man. Do what works best for you.Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
I've tried the ****y/funny routine. It usually backfired since I did it AT FIRST APPROACH.
No woman, I don't care how hot or used to sycophantic behavior she is, wants to hear a neg-hit from a random stranger going for a number close.
I've approached HB's many times using C/F and gotten rejected, until I did it in front of a friend. Afterwards he said this:
Why'd you say that? You sounded like an *******.
That really hit home. C/F just isn't congruent with my personality. I have nothing to be ****y about, and I'm not particularly funny either.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.